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new to widowhood
how does one cope with the lonliness and emptiness after losing one's love of 21 years
So Alone......
So alone in my bed
Alone listening to nightly whispers
Alone in my thoughts
Alone standing in court
Alone I stand and fight
Alone I pray for rainbow lights
Alone in the morning I awake
Alone I celebrate my joys
Alone I cry out my sadness
Alone I voice out my fears
Alone in strenght
Alone in wealth
Alone in good health
Alone I try to understand
Alone I seek knowledge
Alone I share what is mine
Alone I try not to be alone
Alone when my time has come, I pass away
Sylvia Chidi
Alone listening to nightly whispers
Alone in my thoughts
Alone standing in court
Alone I stand and fight
Alone I pray for rainbow lights
Alone in the morning I awake
Alone I celebrate my joys
Alone I cry out my sadness
Alone I voice out my fears
Alone in strenght
Alone in wealth
Alone in good health
Alone I try to understand
Alone I seek knowledge
Alone I share what is mine
Alone I try not to be alone
Alone when my time has come, I pass away
Sylvia Chidi
Have not been feeling well!
I just wanted to let everyone know that I have been in bed with a very bad cold and it is not getting any better right now. I am trying to not call the doctor because I can usually fight off a cold, but this one seems to have knocked me for a loop. So forgive me for not posting for the past couple of days. I could not sleep so I jumped in the group to see if everything was okay and it seems to be. Thanks for Rocksadie for carrying the fort for me and for anyone new to the group, I will try tomorrow to get back to send you a post.
Hugs,
Kathy
Hugs,
Kathy
Eccles 9-12
9 Two are better than one,
Because they have a good reward for their labor.
10 For if they fall, one will lift up his companion.
But woe to him who is alone when he falls,
For he has no one to help him up.
11 Again, if two lie down together, they will keep warm;
But how can one be warm alone?
12 Though one may be overpowered by another, two can withstand him.
And a threefold cord is not quickly broken.
Because they have a good reward for their labor.
10 For if they fall, one will lift up his companion.
But woe to him who is alone when he falls,
For he has no one to help him up.
11 Again, if two lie down together, they will keep warm;
But how can one be warm alone?
12 Though one may be overpowered by another, two can withstand him.
And a threefold cord is not quickly broken.
The One that made us whole!!!!
It's been awhile since I've shared with you.
It's also been 6 months since I lost my Cathy.
I've sorta put my plans in motion that I will leave Afghanistan this coming October after 4 1/2yrs of service helping the troops over here.
My daughters say that I should carry on with my plans to travel to Alaska and visit all the national parks that Cathy and I were going to see.
And that sounds good for now.
But here is my question and also my problem!!!!
Where do we go from here?
Since I was 21. I devoted my life to one woman. For 32 years. Now she's gone.
The memories that I have bring me joy but also sadness.
The same with the music of our era, the 70's and 80's.
I guess what I'm saying is that we all need a purpose.
And I don't feel like I have one anymore.
I don't want to just exist, waiting to die.
I don't feel enthusiastic about my future.
How do we live without the one that made us whole?????
It's also been 6 months since I lost my Cathy.
I've sorta put my plans in motion that I will leave Afghanistan this coming October after 4 1/2yrs of service helping the troops over here.
My daughters say that I should carry on with my plans to travel to Alaska and visit all the national parks that Cathy and I were going to see.
And that sounds good for now.
But here is my question and also my problem!!!!
Where do we go from here?
Since I was 21. I devoted my life to one woman. For 32 years. Now she's gone.
The memories that I have bring me joy but also sadness.
The same with the music of our era, the 70's and 80's.
I guess what I'm saying is that we all need a purpose.
And I don't feel like I have one anymore.
I don't want to just exist, waiting to die.
I don't feel enthusiastic about my future.
How do we live without the one that made us whole?????
Welcome to the group, bouffam!
I would like to take a minute and welcome, bouffam, to the group that no one ever plans or wants to join. I am so very sorry over the loss of your spouse. My husband died on Sept. 24, 2007, very unexpectedly, and this group has been my lifeline through the horrible times and the good times as well. I look forward to getting to know you better and please post a message whenever you feel the need or just answer a posting if you would like. This group is comprised of the most loving and caring people in all stages of grief, so I know you will be able to help and relate to all of us. Once again welcome to the group!
Hugs,
Kathy
Hugs,
Kathy
Remembering Suzy
My wife died five years ago on February 3rd. She was a beautiful figure skater among many other things...
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My Heart Has Been Ripped From My Chest
The last thing I thought I'd be doing just after the holidays is typing a message to at Widows and Widowers support group.
I lost my soul mate, my best friend and my treasured companion of 27 years suddenly on the morning of December 28. It was a complete unexpected shock that is devistating to me and my family. I have four grown children (James III is 26 and scheduled to be married on March 31, Jordan Christine is 23 and just graduated college, Jacob Dean is 20 and going into the Army, and Joseph Ian is 17 and a junior in HS).
So now I'm a single parent. I wake every morning wanting to hold my Jennifer and I miss her so much. Yet she's not there, and she won't be ever again.
I find myself crying spontaneously, but as I haven't been back to work yet, it's been in private. I'm worried about how I willl supress the tears once I go back to work next week.
I realize I'm not the only one to have ever endured such pain, and sometimes I fell ashamed feeling so sorry for myself.
Jennifer was the most beautiful woman I have ever known. As a nurse, she always cared for others before she thought of herself. Her children adored her as did I.
Life is miserable right now and I'm interested in any help people can provide in how to get through this.
Blessings to you all.
...jim
I lost my soul mate, my best friend and my treasured companion of 27 years suddenly on the morning of December 28. It was a complete unexpected shock that is devistating to me and my family. I have four grown children (James III is 26 and scheduled to be married on March 31, Jordan Christine is 23 and just graduated college, Jacob Dean is 20 and going into the Army, and Joseph Ian is 17 and a junior in HS).
So now I'm a single parent. I wake every morning wanting to hold my Jennifer and I miss her so much. Yet she's not there, and she won't be ever again.
I find myself crying spontaneously, but as I haven't been back to work yet, it's been in private. I'm worried about how I willl supress the tears once I go back to work next week.
I realize I'm not the only one to have ever endured such pain, and sometimes I fell ashamed feeling so sorry for myself.
Jennifer was the most beautiful woman I have ever known. As a nurse, she always cared for others before she thought of herself. Her children adored her as did I.
Life is miserable right now and I'm interested in any help people can provide in how to get through this.
Blessings to you all.
...jim
Question for the widows out there
I have been a widow for 5 years now. I still have a hard time doing things by myself. The hardest thing to do is to go into a restaurant and eat by myself. How do you handle this?
