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sweetest/cutest moments
I thought that I wanted to share, but all I really want to do is cry, when all those memories flood back in my mind. Sammy was the sweetest, most caring, funniest, lovable person that you could imagine. A week before he died, I took him to an AA meeting. He was 18 and the condition was that you get help with the drinking or you will have to move out on your own. That "tough love" was so difficult and scary for us. Sammy was a "lets have fun," loveable drunk. I am not making excuses for his bad behavior, but he never hurt anyone, was never mean, and just did not realize how it had all sneeked up on him and became a problem.
He came out of that meeting with everyone hugging him and he was in tears hugging everybody back. He was happy and hopeful. He found the will to master his weaknesses and make a great life for himself.
He hugged me, and said, "thank you Mom, I love you."
He came out of that meeting with everyone hugging him and he was in tears hugging everybody back. He was happy and hopeful. He found the will to master his weaknesses and make a great life for himself.
He hugged me, and said, "thank you Mom, I love you."
From death to life..
Grieving in a positive way sounds like a great idea to me. Although it will always be painful to bear the loss of a child, we can remember all the wonderful things about them, be thankful that they were given to us for as long as they were, and look forward to the day when we will see them again.
Sammy was ADD, so he struggled with impulsiveness and being misunderstood. He was extremely talented as an artist and cared so much for others. He had so many friends and he touched many lives in a positive way. On July 4, 2001, he and friends went out to " the mountain" at the old stone quarry to watch fireworks. Sammy was clowning around and the unstable rocks gave way and he fell 200 feet. He passed into eternal life 9 hours later.
I have went through all the stages of grief and have come to the conclusion that I was very blessed to have this sweet, extraordinary person as a son. Letting pain and sadness cripple me the rest of my life would not honor his memory.
Sammy was ADD, so he struggled with impulsiveness and being misunderstood. He was extremely talented as an artist and cared so much for others. He had so many friends and he touched many lives in a positive way. On July 4, 2001, he and friends went out to " the mountain" at the old stone quarry to watch fireworks. Sammy was clowning around and the unstable rocks gave way and he fell 200 feet. He passed into eternal life 9 hours later.
I have went through all the stages of grief and have come to the conclusion that I was very blessed to have this sweet, extraordinary person as a son. Letting pain and sadness cripple me the rest of my life would not honor his memory.
