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I would like to get to know our members better. How about telling us something about yourself.

What is your situation? Are you currently divorced, in the process of divorcing, or contemplating a divorce?

Dealing With Being Alone Again seems to make many women feel it's a fate worse than death. They look at it as moving backwards, or as a sign that they have failed in some way. In our society, for some reason, many women feel that being alone equals being a reject and unwanted by anyone. It is really kind of sad that our society has come to think of being alone as such a negative thing. When you are single, it simply means that you are not married, not one thing more. It does not take away any of your desirability, it does not mean that you are not loving or not interesting. Being alone does not mean one should be ashamed. Being alone can be great. This is a time when you can learn to respect yourself and can learn to enjoy your own company. After all, if you don't really like being alone, what good reason would anyone else want to be with you?

We need to learn to focus on the positive aspects of being alone, not the negative.

Talk about being alone, if this applies to you. Do you agree or disagree with the posting?

Is there a joy in life that you do not want yourself or other to do without?

I've been divorced for 5 mths, seperated for 2 1/2 years and were both in new long term relationships. I'm the one who got fed up and left after 24 years.

My question is..... how long before the disappointment, sadness etc. leaves you where you can actually say that you haven't thought about your ex in weeks, months??

2 1/2 years later and he still seems to cross my mind on a daily basis with both good and bad memories.

I obviously can't read his mind and we rarely speak (its been months) unless there is an issue with one of the kids. Then it's usually email or text only. But it seems from what I see and hear he is healed from all of this and yet he was so devestated when I left him.

I'm happy in my new relationship, but I dont' seem to be quite as far ahead in the 'moving on' part as he is and I guess that confuses me. I dunno.

I was wondering how many people ever feel like they don't belong or out of place like they don't fit in?

How does your sensitivity effect your relationships? My ex husband would always say "You let everything get to you too much, let things roll off your back". Easy for him to say, nor so easy to explain.

What Shape Best Identifies You?
Do your friends and family say that you are more like a Square, Octagon, Triangle, or Circle?

Squares=People who have four sides but each side is clearly defined. These folks fit neatly into any situation.

Octagons=People who exhibit so many sides of themselves that we don't really know who we are talking to at any one time (kind of like having multiple personalities).

Triangles=These people prefer to be with one other person, but also like to have someone else around just in case.

Circles=These people are not sure who they are. They identify with many things and people just to fit in.

I just read this article in Oprah and thought I would let us roll it around in our circle.

"...Gorgeous is not a good stock to invest in. It has a completely predictable payout. No matter what you do, how well you take care of yourself, how much surgery you submit to, one day you are going to lose everything on your investment"...

Thoughts???

Here are some self assessment questions for you to ponder. One of the truths in life is we simply don't see ourselves as others do. It's never to late for us to learn new things and put them into practice.

Please see 1st reply.

Why do canibals refuse to eat divorced women?
(answer below)

BECAUSE THEY ARE 'BITTER'!