Posting this makes me very vulnerable and I am aware of it so I will not list everything; neither should you.
1.Must not be a smoker
2.Must be a Christian
3.Must be single
4.will not tolerate cussing
5.must meet me half way in everything
5.cannot be a cheater
6.cannot be a couch potato
7.should accept me and my family as I accept his..etc..
Yup TX ~ Got my list of must have & also of things I know I'll never tolerate for very long as well. Don't feel at all vulnerable here. For the right person, there are options. (Smile)
Must haves: Though I'm adaptable, for my basic happiness my needs are............
1. A good communicator ~ must be able to talk to me as well as listen & visa versa
2. Emotionally healthy ~ Another words...... over his past loves & able to share a stable life with someone new!!!
3. Loyal ~ Someone I can count on & he I through life's up's & downs
4. Gotta be Self confident ~ Just believe in yourself & your ability.
5. Has to be gentle & kind ~ Not only to me, but others as well.
6. Has to have patience ~ Just my opinion but when someone has patience, they also have that willingness to endure.
7. I HATE Conflict ~ So............. they would have to a willingness to try to resolve rather than fight to win.
8. Accept my children as part of our life, as I would yours.......... even if they are less than perfect ~ Other than getting my youngest through college. Mine are grown, successful & on their own. Mine may be successful, but they are NOT perfect. Just don't think yours are better than mine. I can be fair, can you???
9. Affectionate ~ Cause I am a touchy feely type person, he'd need to accept that I have to have that human touch to make me happy. More than likely "Passion" will play into this as well. (Smile)
Also, even though I'm pretty tolerant, I have a "Know I'll NEVER, or won't tolerate for very long list as well.
1. Is the workaholic ~ Sorry.......... Though I can be respectful of a "Hard Worker" I'm just not inclined to taking second place to ones job.
2. Can't stand a liar ~ Need I say more???
3. Can't stand disrespect ~ someone whom is rude, or vulgar, or just plain old fashion thinks that they should come first.
4. Can't stand infidelity, or a cheater ~ Only thing worse is a cheat that lies about it!!!
5. Being Judgmental ~ Just keep judging others when you have no right to judge & see where that will get you with me!!!
6. Substance abuse ~ Don't mind if you smoke the legal stuff (even this is bad enough), or have a few drinks, but I will NOT tolerate a drunk, nor an illegal drug user.
7. The Money worshiper ~ Just cause they got it, they think everything is this world has a price tag & they can simply buy what they want in life!!! When will they ever learn that Money does NOT buy love, nor happiness in this world???
Just my opinion, but we all have a list of what will make us happy & I feel it is usually based on what will always make you happy. No matter what has happened in you life, these wants will still be you & will remain the same. On the other hand, you got that list of "I know I can't tolerate!"
Some comes from our past experiences, or just from a "Gut" instinct of what we think we can't stand. Mine come from experience. Having been there & done this before, I'm pretty confidant that I'll never tolerate much of this again.
The better he is in bed, the shorter my list will be.
Well Jingles guess you better cross me off your list!
Apperently my lsit is subconious cause Wellmaybe not I'll have to think on it a while and get back to you.
Must Haves:
I must have someone with a similar deep commitment to spirituality, who shares my beliefs.
I must have a partner who is emotionally healthy, and able to share a stable life with someone else.
I must have someone who is willing to share my interests and passions.
I must have a partner who is able to forget about money and focus on the important parts of life.
I must have a partner who is able to adapt to life's surprises.
I must have a partner who enjoys people and is generous with her compassion, attention, sympathies and love.
I must have a partner who is gentle and kind.
I must have a partner who is honest and strong enough to do the right thing.
I must feel deeply in love with and attracted to my partner.
Can't Stands:
I can't stand someone who is incapable of managing their money.
I can't stand someone who lies to anyone-especially to me.
I can't stand someone who finds fault with everyone and everything.
I can't stand someone who takes advantage of people.
I can't stand someone who fails to come through and is unreliable.
I can't stand someone who currently suffers from addictions.
I can't stand someone whose main topic of conversation is herself.
I can't stand someone who is constantly unhappy about their life.
I can't stand someone who engages in sex outside a committed relationship.
I can't stand someone who has a devious nature and is mean to others
My list is so long it would take me all day to post. Perhaps that's why I'm still single.
My understanding is that "professionals" in the counseling field highly recommend making such a list - in writing - and using it to gauge your compatibility with people you meet.
And, if you're a Christian & believe in the power of prayer, such a list should be used for the purpose of God bringing that person into your life that fulfills the desires of your heart.
Seems to me if you're so busy making lists- you really limit yourself to alot of possibilities.
I can't come up with a whole list, but I do have one big requirement - he must be STRAIGHT! My ex....well, you got the idea.
>>>The better he is in bed, the shorter my list will be.<<<
ROFLMAO, HB ... my thoughts exactly! Add to that, must have romantic happy skills.
