in answer to your question thats why we dont want avatars on here only real pictures,if you dont like what you see your not obligated in any way, wp
Hard to say...as a lot of complaints of online pics (when you finally meet in real life) is about the inaccuracy of photos...so I don't think I'd write someone off on the basis of a photo that didn't grab me.
I would be honest and upfront- say that I didn't feel that we were a match after all, not specifically referring to their photo, just in general. After a week..not a big deal. I don't do on line dating anymore, too weird.
I am currently subscribed to a internet dating site. I don't respond to anyone that won't post a photo. I want someone that is going to be honest and upfront from the very beginning.
Debbie
First, just my humble opinion - the avatar vs. "real" picture on this site is a totally different ballgame than the internet dating sites. This is not a dating site & if someone that doesn't have their picture posted does get your attention with their humor or intelligence, etc. thru their postings, then you can send them a PM & communicate that way. Then if you both choose you can move to your own private email & exchange pictures at that time. Many people just don't want to give up their privacy by posting pictures for the whole world to see. They can be more honest & spontaneous when functioning as an anonymous.
When I was doing the internet dating thing I didn't like to correspond with anyone that didn't have their picture posted. Too much of our initial attraction is based on looks - whether we want to admit it or not. But let's face it, people can put any picture they want on their profiles - it may be current or not. It may not even be them - I've had people tell me when they went to meet the person it wasn't even the person in the picture at all - was a picture of a friend or a relative.
So, if someone's profile grabbed my attention & had no picture but I wanted to take a chance, I think I'd keep things very much on just the friendly side until I could see if I could persuade them to post a picture. Then if they post one & I didn't feel an attraction, I'd just keep things strictly friendly & let them know I'd prefer to just be email buddies. Or, start slowing things down until it could die a natural death.
Well that motorcycle is a rsal picture of my real bike . If you want to see a picture of me , then all you have to do is click on my profile as there are some there .
We are visual creatures . That is a little unfortunate , because I have met some very nice women in my life that I wasn't attracted to in any way emotionaly .
As far as TY2BO's take on this NOT being a dating site . I disagree somewhat . Technicaly she's right , but don't tell the majority that .
Half the time the picture is old within a few years. I really could post a nice one of myself (glamour shot around 44) and you'd say WOW is that really her? The other half of the time, I can't even decipher whether or not some of these photos are male or female and when I meet some of my Eons friends it's a pleasant surprise to find that young picture or not, they are still the nice people I wrote to.
In a case like yours, try talking to her on the phone. See what she sounds like..I think chemistry can come that way too ~~ If not, say a gentle bye and drop it.. Don't worry she won't break - not if you met her on a dating site.
My pic is less than 2 months old --- I'm undertall for my weight, (short, fat and sassy - grin) I've enjoyed chatting with the ppl here. I too have had lots of people I call friend but have no romantic interest in them. Not sure what can attract someone as a friend and not romantically. The three serious relationships I've had in my life have been total opposites. So it has to be something more that I see inside of the person rather than physical outside....but exactly what it is I'm still not sure.....LOL maybe I'll figure it out when I grow up..LOL
Just be honest, and be yourself. Pictures are deceiving anyway. If we had major chemistry talking on the tele, i wouldn't care about pic.
