I do believe that it never ends. But you know, I think I will kind of like it if that occurs. It will mean that they respect my opinion and that maybe I did something right. I wouldn't mind being there to give opinions when asked. As I think back, I remember that my mother was always there for me when I needed advice or an opinion no matter how old I was. Now if it concerns money, that may be another issue!! lol
LOL, but don't you just love it Marti?
Your right, your never done being Mom and your children will aways need you!!
enjoy!! Starrybright
Ok now I'm depressed again. :)
See I would never consider asking my mom for advice; I'm way too independent for that, always was. And it really throws me when my oldest at 19 has me do something that I know I was doing for myself at that age. With him it is little step by little step. He did get himself to goodwill alone to buy himself clothes for his summer job at KFC with his money; he even got shoes. I believe that is the first time the boy has bought shoes without me present. All that is just so foreign to me at 19; I had my own home since I was 18 1/2.
Sometimes it is nice, but lots of time I'm like Marti--btw, think you'll have room down there in Mexico for another runaway mom in about --oh--15 years? I have a feeling I will need a safe house.
My plan is to move nearest to the most independent child I have so they won't nag me. Or better yet I'll stay down here on the farm, and they can go see the great wide world.
I realized a long time ago your kids are never truly independent of you. My daughter calls me almost on a daily basis to ask my advice on something or to just ask for a recipe. Heck, I still call my mom for advice and she,s almost 81!
My 32 year old daughter told me last week that she needed to sleep over because she needed her mommy,,,,, LOL The 4 year old granddaughter just stood there and took this all in.
I can see where it might be frustrating. I can also see where it just might feel good to be that loved? Are they truly leaning and depending on you to have exactly the right answers, or are they making use of the chance to get input they respect (and that feels good to them)? I think the first would get old fast, the latter just might be bearable.
BTW, they don't have to be your own children for it to never end. No less than three former Girl Scouts in their early 20s called us this past week - one became a foster daughter and just moved back into our area, one had a heart attack DURING her dialysis treatment, one lives half the country away and was just checking in. Recently a woman who was in our troop fifteen years ago asked for our advice and a supporting letter for a child custody hearing. She said, "Look at me. I'm 32, and I'm still asking my Girl Scout leader for help!" In spite of the stress, it feels good to be needed.
Kinda balances out the wounded and needy feelings.
