See how God works! Didn't get that cell call til AFTER dinner!!
posted by Missy05
about 1 month ago
One thought....mine went "off to college" and now they are back....no complaints....just do not redo their room too soon, LOL!!
posted by TCHMB
about 1 month ago
It is definitely hard at first, but it is hard for them, too. I noticed all three of my girls came home to visit a lot the first year, plus they do have lots of breaks. At Christmas they get anywhere from four to six weeks off, then they come back in May for the Summer. You will find that you have time to focus on lots of things that you haven't had time for in years and will start enjoying it!
Well I live in FL. My oldest son lives in CT and my daughter is in PA. So I don't get to see them that often. I am hoping my youngest ends up at a school that is close enough to come home for a weekend. As much as I miss my kids I don't want to move back home. But living close by would be great. But they are happy. And that's the important things.
posted by jan1010
about 1 month ago
I also have a soon to be 18 youngest out of 3. But mine is just going to be a junior. I kept him back one year.And here in Okla they have D-1 then first grade.From kindergarten. Tommy lives at the boy's ranch because his grades were dropping because his step father couldn't get along with him.He was jealous of Tommy. Long story.
Oh after awhile of being a lone,you might really enjoy it.I really love it as long as I have my little dog.
There is no preparation for the empty feeling that comes when they leave. People can say it normal from now and forever, but it wasn't *normal* for me. Yes, I'm sure they are excited to be "one their own" and that's good; but somehow they need to know that by leaving the house/city/state, they are not leaving your heart. I'd take that alone-time and try to explain how very sad (yet happy) you are. Ask him to *remember* you and include you in his adventures. I know this is contrary to all we, as parents, are told. Boys, more than girls, readily cut the ties. Explain that the umbilical cord is being cut...but never the one that goes to your heart.
I don't/didn't want any of the children to feel guilty, but I did want them to understand that the initial separation was going to be hard for their ol' Mom. They *need* to realize that family is forever and just because they are tall and grown, they are still intricately connected. I think it helps everyone.
posted by jatfla
about 1 month ago
