Divorcée or Widow
There are so many single women in my church who are searching for a good man. Who do you think has a more difficult time...a divorcée or a widow?
I think they are both going to have a hard time. A widow who was happily married might wonder if she can ever find anyone to equal her dead spouse. A divorcee might wonder if the problems she had in her previous marriage might also occur in another marriage.
2 months ago
I think the divorcee - they bring more baggage with them regardless of who initiated the divorce.
2 months ago
Tough question! Gotta look for baggage: either could have some. On the flip side: there's no former spouse around to cause problems with a widowed woman. I think it is hard to generalize because of all the factors but, probably the widow would have an easier time than the divorcee.
2 months ago
i think both. men sometimes feel theey have to follow a previous man and either way he is under pressure to be better than the last spouse or in the case of a happy widow be like the former husband. in this market today all single women are having difficulty.
2 months ago
Hello? Excuse me? Why are those the only options? I am a Single/Never married woman with no kids and I'm pretty sure I'm not the one on the planet with those stats. (But I may be the only one with those stats who doesn't attend church or subscribe to the rituals of an organized religious group). Silly me, but I'm also not "searching" for a good man. Plus I've heard they are no easier to find in church than at a bar. Sure, I'd like to find a male companion/mate to spend my twilight years with. Someone to have a lively chat with occasionally, to help with household duties, to call 9-1-1 if I slip and fall in the tub, and for other practical reasons. So back to your question of who has a harder time? I'd say the inexperienced (single/never married) single woman with no kids! Or am I part of such a small minority that I don't count?
2 months ago
No Citygal you are not alone. I was married, but divorced for several years now. I am not looking for a husband, a friend or companion to do the twilight years with not, so bad. But I do not think you have to belong to a organized church group to find a good man either. Just because they are in church does not mean a thing. Another conversation for another time. But I think they both will..........have a time looking out there. I know a lot of women out there who are widow and divorced and do not want to get married again. There was a article in the newspaper, I think it was the baltimore Sun. and they were saying alot of women would prefer to be single................
2 months ago
Okay, not sure who would have the harder time. I have a harder time explaining why I don't want to get married. I was for almost 33 years, I have a wonderful friend now and no, I do not want to get married. I am happy being me, happy knowing I can for the first time in my life rely on me and no I will not be disappointed in the person I relied on. But my friend is a doll and I would live with him when the time is right, but it is not now. I'll let you know. Women in general have a harder time because they want more than just sex.
2 months ago
Citygal, I think it's just such a rarity for anybody our age (male or female) to have never been married. You probably are in the minority category of "not married."
2 months ago
I agree with Pam that it is harder for women because they want more. All they have to do is chill and not make demands. Most of my friends are guys, and their main complaint is that women are too demanding and want to take their souls away.
I agree...I think that if you are with someone, you don't have to think so hard about it. Women have a tendency to focus on small issues that can result in drama.
I think that any women who is not confident about herself, no matter what her marital status will have a hard time. Especially if she has expectations that are not realistic to a relationship.
I agree...I think that if you are with someone, you don't have to think so hard about it. Women have a tendency to focus on small issues that can result in drama.
I think that any women who is not confident about herself, no matter what her marital status will have a hard time. Especially if she has expectations that are not realistic to a relationship.
2 months ago
Females, have a harder time. Single ones w/out children, young with a job, high on the list. Single w/ children, divorce w/or w/out children, might have a better chance than the one w/ a great job. Widows have a chance but don't want to. I am a widow, remarried widow, and single.(Now that is some stuff LOL.) Those are the ones w/a job single, young, old in between, scares the mess out of males. let us not forget the other material things. dress nice,home,car.w/ strength.
It seems as if we all have a hard time.
It seems as if we all have a hard time.
2 months ago
