Message 938 of 1601

What is it????

I am trying keep my mouth shut, I swear I am.

My 37 year old daughter just broke up with another guy who was just using her, she lets it happen.
When he bought a new house he wouldn't even take her by to show it to her, and yet she didn't get it.
He kept telling her to give him some time in it by himself before he took her there. What????
I mean if your dating what is that all about?

Anyway they broke up and she said how hurt she was, and how much she loved him, and then that very night she goes to the bar and picks up a guy who is a friend of her girls.

First off my grandaughters are only 19 and 16 so why he hangs out with them is something I don't understand since he is 29.
He is covered with tatoos and has spikes in his face. He wears black polish on his finger nails, and shaves his head.
I swear I didn't say a word.

On the 4th of July is when I found out about him. I had been happily sipping my beer and in a good mood when he shows up, and I still never said a word.

So this evening I had stopped by her place and she is grilling chicken for him for dinner.
He shows up and we are sitting there talking and my daughter says, I like the way you asked my brother if he wanted something from Taco Bell for dinner but you didn't ask me.
I said, I like the way your grilling chicken on the grill for your boyfriend but you didn't offer me any.
It was a joke between her and I, but this guy says, I'm glad the first time I met you you were pretty tipsy.
I said , Why do you think I'm a bitch sober?

He said he didn't except me to say that, and I said I didn't except his remark either.
I also told him if he makes a remark I will say something back, that is the way I am.

Maybe it's because I think he is a freak but he pissed me off.

Anyway maybe I'm being judgemental but I'm thinking what hole in hell did she drag this thing out of.
What can she be thingking??
Ok tell me if I'm being a bitch, or would you want to see your daughter with a circus freak at her age?
I should add she dresses normal.
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Out of the frying pan and into the fire. I don't think I could keep my mouth shut either. So hard to see people you care about making poor choices. Just keep the faith and your sanity, maybe it's just a brain burp on her part.
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3 months ago
She sounds like she picks assholes like I do.
I say be a BITCH to him, tell him to kiss it where the sun don't shine.
You daughter may get mad but, she needs to go down another path than the one she is on.
Where is she finding these men?
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3 months ago
Well in the first place she can'r stand to be alone. I've seen her with some pretty stuff, but this guy!!!
OMG!!
I don't know how she can hold her head up in this town as low as she has sunk this time.
Everytime I think I have seen her do it all she goes one more step over the edge.
This guy hangs out with her kids for crying out loud.
He was trying to tell me what a good girl my 16 year granddaughter is, and I'm thinking by whose standards is he judging that by.

By the age of 15 she had an affair with a married man, whose wife was due anytime. She smokes, quit school, doesn't bathe, and brags in front of her mother about how much she drinks.
She is a beautiful girl who has long blonde hair and big blue eyes, but if you could see her you'd not want her hanging around your kids.

She wets her hair down and puts gel in it then lets it dry stringy, she then twists a rubber band in it and puts a bunch of bobby pins in it.

Then she smears all of this black eye liner all over her eyes, in the morning when she gets up she never washes her face or bushes her teeth, they are yellow and have crud on them.
If she gets near you in the morning the smell about kills you.
This is who I would have thought would have drug this guy home, not her mother.

I don't know how they got this way, I don't remember teaching them to look like hell.

My son said the other day that he was looking at her teeth and wonder what kind of guy would want to kiss that mouth.
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3 months ago
jeanie, this is not about you it is about the bad decisions/choices they are making. You can bring your kids up very well with all the values and morals and when they start associating with whatever is under the rocks, they are going to do their own thing. I know it is shameful, but it really does not reflect on you. I would suggest that you try your best not to personalize it. All of their bad choices will come home to roost one way or another. this guy could just look like a Kook, but really could be a nice guy... I am giving him a little rope...LOL.

So many of these younger "Y" generation folks have that "I am crazy kind of look." It is like the weirder the better.

I do not think that you are being a Bitch, but I think that she needs to do this herself. If she never makes good choices, then that is her decision.
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3 months ago
I know it isn't about me and the way I tried to bring them up, but there are times that I will have to be around this guy if she keeps dating him, or just get up and leave before he shows up.

I know you are trying to be fair Louise about him being a nice guy but it is so hard to look at.
The pants past the butt, torn pants, leather bands around everything, and all that metal. How do you kiss a guy that has metal sticking out of his lip and chin?

She isn't a kid, she is nearly forty. She keeps telling me that she wants to get her life together and then she drags this thing into her life.
I'll just have to stay way until she comes to her right mind, I can't take it.
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3 months ago
is she making bad choices due to alcohol or drugs?...I'm with Louise...not a thing you can do...it's her journey and her choices...it must be awful to watch this unfold...but you have no control over the situation...unless you are financially supporting her...then you can cut her off the payroll...try and detach...and do something nice for yourself...you deserve it
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3 months ago
But jeanie, you are not kissing him, she is.
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3 months ago
sounds to me like she has a fear of turning 40. look at the picture, She has 2 young daughters and her mother. she cant be as young as them and dos not want to be as old as mom {not that you are old:]] so at this point she is being silly, take a deep breath, she will be ok, because you know this dim wit is going to make one move to many
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3 months ago
I don't think I could shut up either. It's too bad that your daughter can't seem to be happy without a man in her life. My sister is like that too. Some women just can't face being alone so they have to be with someone, even if that someone isn't worth being with at all.

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3 months ago
Jeanie you are yourself. You cannot be anyone else. At age39 forgive me for this your daughter should have an understanding of why she is picking these gentlemen and doing all she can to stop this.
I dont like a man hanging out with younger woman that bothers me but you knew it .
I am not sure how your conversations are with your daughter but this is one of those that must be a sit down .
I agree with you
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3 months ago
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