Whether you were awake or asleep your Dad's spirit came to you that night to let you know he is still around you. He wanted to comfort you and let you know that he was okay in order to bring you a sense of peace.
The easiest way for the spirits to make contact with us is in our dreams. I always ask my departed love ones to come to me in my dreams.
do you ask out loud or in your thoughts?
You can do either way.
I always ask them in my thoughts.
i believe it was your Dad. i have had visitation both waking and sleeping, the waking were more profound because i knew it wasn't just a 'wish fulfillment' dream.
You can not only ask departed loved ones to come in dreams you can ask for guidance in your dreams, how to handle or deal with a problem.
I had a similar experience not long after my son passed. I was laying across the bed, facing the wall, crying my heart out. I felt like someone grasped my shoulder and squeezed it. I assumed it was my husband and turned around, but there was no one there. I haven't had that experience since, so I keep doubting it, questioning it.
I have no doubts of what I felt. It happened.
When I was younger I used to try to see if I could become aware i was dreaming while i was dreaming. It was an I dea i read about in a book. I think the book was "The teachings of Don Juan; A Yaqui way of life" by Carlos Canstaneda. Although the author took drugs in the book, I remember trying to be active in my dreams.
Is this what you are suggesting?
Nannalee...my gosh...it takes energy for a spirit to give us a physical touch...don't doubt it just because you haven't had more. Accepting it for what it was (your son trying to comfort you) could in fact make it easier for him to contact you again.
Eldamatic,
i've found meditation to be the surest route to dream control, but it doesn't have to be a big showy deal. A few minutes each night before you lay down sleep, affirming that you will be aware of dreaming, and remember your dreams should show results relatively quickly. No drugs needed. Inviting your Dad to visit in 'dreams' would take similar effort...but is a slightly different thing to my mind. Because then it is not 'just a dream' it is a visitation that takes place in a dream.
posted by feywon
about 1 month ago
fey - are you aware in your dreams? What can you do in that state?
Eldamatic,
Yes, but not of all my dreams. When i took the Silva course, everyone else in the class was wanting just to remember their dreams. Me? i wanted to sort them and consciously remember only those that were important to my soul growth. i have to reinforce the 'programming' for this every couple of years or my mind drifts back towards 'total recall'.
When i know i am dreaming i can direct the course of the dream, turn 'nightmares' in to lessons and sometimes into joyous dreams. i can ask questions of 'others' and myself in the dream..and get pretty coherent answers. i've solved waking life problems in my dreams (both practical and emotional ones).
i also can go back and 'finish' an interrupted dream. Once i was awakened 3 times and went back to where the dream had left off.
i've worked on learning what my dream language is: for me houses are my 'mind', water my soul. While Jung's archetypes are pretty accurate we all have our own symbologies as well.
When my children were fairly young i taught them that once they knew they were dreaming they could always at least wake up by simply commanding themselves to do so, but that it could be more fun to direct the dreams. The boys both created 'protectors' that would intervene in nightmares, and were awed when their 4 yr old sister converted a monster to a friend with a hug in one of hers. (They were 12 by that time.) We discussed our dreams frequently so it was seen as normal and part of life. They all became adept at interpreting dreams. Seth, who is in the Navy now, was particularly good on picking up on meanings where the mind was being overly literal, making puns as it often does.
One reason discussing and writing down is a good idea when doing 'dreamwork' is the language you use can often bring you to the meaning...you'll be describing the dream and realize the point. Like the one i had years ago when i was doing a lot of work on old traumas. i dreamt i was in a very 'spooky' house, yet i & someone else in the dream (who may have been just another part of me)were locking doors and boarding up windows. In writing about the dream i put down 'but the problem, the danger was not coming from outside, it was inside already'. Duh!!!! All the scariest stuff was inside me...i needed to open 'windows' & 'doors', let the sun in and do some 'housecleaning', clearly!
posted by feywon
about 1 month ago
That is so cool Fey, thanks.
