On this day as this country celebrates its Independence and Freedom, I've been thinking about how many of us, here in Somos Latinos, are totally independent and free. When I say independent I mean:
Free from any mind set? Free to experiment, free to do what I want when I want? Free to walk on the beach without fear of molestation or accostment? yeah. I'm free. Anyone who tries to take that freedom away will get their hand chopped off. Without apologies.
not influenced or controlled by others in matters of opinion, conduct, etc.; thinking or acting for oneself; not influenced by the thought or action of others; not dependent; not relying on another person or others for aid or support.
A single, independent person usually lives alone, has the freedom to come and go as they please, does not answer to anyone except to God, and can financially sustain themselves completely and take care of their obligations to others.
Here are my questions: Is being totally independent a good thing or could it be the reason why you're alone and or lonely? I have heard that some men are intimidated by independent women. Are you not willing to give it up for the right love or you just haven't found the right love that will make you say, "I'm willing to give up my independence and freedom to commit to this person". If you commit to a person, how much of your independence should you give up?
Now I'm not saying that if you've been an independent woman and find the right person that you should throw it all in the wind and expect for that man to take care of you.
i am free to express myself in words and deeds. free to change my hair color or reinvent myself. free to be ME (as Marlo Thomas likes to encourage the children to be)...actually being "me" can be difficult for many of us...
i come and go as I want. I do not depend on anyone for anything! I am single AND alone but not lonely.
I won't go into it too deeply because I am sure some of you remember my blog "Man up, Ed" where this young man thought that the only way your manly is to be in a relationship with a woman. But I still don't have a girlfriend. I am not looking for one. And, yes, I am still manly and free!
I consider myself independent. I also listen to other people's opinion but agree or disagree with them. I am opened minded. I independently chose to share my life with my soul mate. We are both independent and know that no one owns no one else and that we are together with each other because we choose to be. I have my disagreements as far as how this country is governed but choose to live here with those differences. I know that I have the independence or freedom to leave if I wish. There you have it!
Yes, I am totally independent for the first time in my life and like to be that way. I dont think I will marry again. I have to work very hard to be independent. I own my house and my car. They are old but all paid. I have a good work. I can choose to whom a want to go out. I like to go to bohemias (piano bar) to hear romantic music with a good wine and "entremeses"(something to eat). Or to a arabian restaurant to have dinner and see a belly dancing show. I dont go out alone at nights so I have my special friends with my same interest. But I also love the beach, the park and to go window shopping and all kind of animals. I love to read, sometimes I like to stay at my house reading.I like to go to my catholic church. I can help my children and grandchildren in many ways (company and a little money in emergencies) Being independent makes me very happy even if have to be alone (and I dont like to be alone) but I prefer my independency. Just a miracle could bring a man with my same interest to my life and the door is always open....
Yes and No. As a young woman I would smile and make nice because I was raised to sublimate myself and keep things peaceful. I am now mature enough to express my opinion. Make my likes and dislikes known. With age comes wisdom, emotional strength and hopefully a bit of diplomacy. I know how important being independent is because I was financially dependent on a man for so long. Now like ed67 I am able to 'come and go' as I choose. But only to a degree. As the mother of three "special children" my choice is to stand by them and help them through this life. Until I have them all squared away and on their own I am not free to live the life I want. But this is the choice I made a long time ago when I became a mother. You ask if I am willing to give up my independence if the right man came along. I've been in relationships long enough to know that compromise, acceptance and tolerance are important factors. And that both people should be willing to give those things. Not just one person. Some people might think to do that is to lose your independence. But I don't think so. The right person is an enhancement in your life,not an anchor.
It has taken me a long time to become an independant woman. I have compromised many times in order to make others happy putting my feelings and needs aside. In recent years I have learned to put myself first. That is the only way which I can be happy and therefore be there for my loved ones. I don't think I will ever re-marry, or live with anyone again, but would like to have a special friend with benefits, who appreciates me. LOL
Freedom and independence. If you area free from something, you are also bound to something. No one is totally free no matter who you are. Think about it.
Now as far as independence, we are all independent to a certain point depending on our situation and circumstances. To be totally independent, one would have to be self sufficient in all aspects in life.
In life, there is One who wants us to be depenndent and obedient to Him only and that's God. Those are the two lessons the entire Bible teaches us, to be dependent on God and Obey God.
So independent women, let's see. Nope not afraid at all and the reason is that normally they don't look for anything from a man to be dependent on the man because they have taken care of themselves for so long. But the man has to bring something to the table to be appreciated by the independent woman. And I mean more than love. Now love is a factor and has to be in the equation, but it takes more than love to try to fulfill what an independent woman wants and needs. It also takes a man of means. Now I maya be wrong in my thinking but these are my thoughts on being independent and free.
I think I'd be a pretty lonely schmuck if I were totally free... not needing anyone for anything.
Being able to survive without the kind word of a pretty lady, the sweet smile of my lil nephew, mom nagging by asking me if I want something to eat. I enjoy the fact that I'm not all knowing, all seeing and all doing... I need people to help me in my work affairs, at the Drs office, etc.
I come and go as I please, but still need to work, still trying to figure out that ^%$#ing DVR. I can think for myself but when "stuck" I can ask someone. I can drive anywhere I want, but need a mechanic to fix the damn car when it breaks down.
