THE HOLIDAY MELTDOWN
Some people seem to be prone to them. You know they get overly defensive, lose all rationale, attack! What's behind this?
My former mother-in-law could turn any holiday into a major crisis. It always needed to be "perfect" in every way, and the end result was that the rest of us were exhausted and stressed. It was as if on these days, she was on stage and her performance was being graded. Maybe she was just afraid of the ability to lay back? Dunno. But I do know she wasn't like this the rest of the year.
about 1 month ago
humm could it be that a holiday is somewhat like leaving the door to the rat cage open. and the rats are confused because they have a day to do what ever they; want to do ??
about 1 month ago
Family and holidays are always troublesome. Maybe everyone just has too much luggage. (I look at it like Marley carrying around all his chains in a Christmas Carole, Charles Dickens)
Just wait long enough for anyone to relive or have a missed word and the fuse is lit.
No one is able to just forgetaboutit.
IMHO Thanksgiving is the best holiday. We all get together, eat a turkey and go home. Nobody is disappointed, the kids, all cousins, have a great time.
I love the 4th of July but the days events of BBQ, at noon and at dinner, too much beer, rough housing, someone gets hurt and the fuse is lit, again. Then there is the day after of incrimination, hangovers, and gossip for the rest of the long weekend.
Jeez!
Best
Ricky
my wife and I stay home and make our own fireworks
Just wait long enough for anyone to relive or have a missed word and the fuse is lit.
No one is able to just forgetaboutit.
IMHO Thanksgiving is the best holiday. We all get together, eat a turkey and go home. Nobody is disappointed, the kids, all cousins, have a great time.
I love the 4th of July but the days events of BBQ, at noon and at dinner, too much beer, rough housing, someone gets hurt and the fuse is lit, again. Then there is the day after of incrimination, hangovers, and gossip for the rest of the long weekend.
Jeez!
Best
Ricky
my wife and I stay home and make our own fireworks
about 1 month ago
Ohhhh Pick Me! I know, I know!
Holidays, particularly Christmas come with built in expectations thanks to the media. Everyone gets the presents they want, dinners are perfect, Dad isn't sitting there drinking. No one is fighting. Everything is roses.
On Fourth of July, the weather is perfect, the picnic/BBQ is delicious, Mom and Dad are getting along. He's not drinking. The relatives aren't bickering. The kids aren't going out of the way to make each other miserable. There are no duds in the fireworks.
The reality is often so much different...therefore, disappointment sets in. Often, holidays dredge up a particularly painful memories. So people get crabby....
Holidays, particularly Christmas come with built in expectations thanks to the media. Everyone gets the presents they want, dinners are perfect, Dad isn't sitting there drinking. No one is fighting. Everything is roses.
On Fourth of July, the weather is perfect, the picnic/BBQ is delicious, Mom and Dad are getting along. He's not drinking. The relatives aren't bickering. The kids aren't going out of the way to make each other miserable. There are no duds in the fireworks.
The reality is often so much different...therefore, disappointment sets in. Often, holidays dredge up a particularly painful memories. So people get crabby....
about 1 month ago
some holidays have traditions in the family. I liked Christmas and Thanksgiving. WE had homemade ice cream. We set out the good china and the whole family was there in peace and harmony, unlike the rest of the year when there was dysfunction. THere can be a lot of pressure to make holidays perfect, especially if there was one person in the family who drove someone or everyone to make it perfect. Sometimes we drive ourselves to make it perfect for our own reasons. I don't celebrate holidays like i used to. I stay home and relax. Everybody is rushing to get last minute things from the store, Driving like mad people to get somewhere, bring something, make something, start the BBQ, clean the house, all that is too much work for one day, and then there is the clean up. I'd rather eat out at the buffet with the relatives and friends.
about 1 month ago
It seems to happen on EONS too! In my personal life & EONS I've had to learn to dodge bullets! I guess ya gotta see it for what it is & then you will not be affected.. IOW it's their problem.
about 1 month ago
