Why is your friend, your friend? Why is your best friend your best friend? What are things and emotions that makes your friend, your friend?
The reason I ask is that, do you at different times in your life have different best friends; or is it the same friend all the time? How long is a best friend; a best friend?
Codependency; love and nurturing come to mind.. what is your hang up?
I have 4 best frineds . 2 women and 2 men . The women are : 1. Donna . She and I have been friends for over 35 years and have never ever been involved together . Her ex and my ex were though .
2. Barb the flight attendant . Neighbor I've known for over 5 years now . Again...no involvment but great frindship .
MEN: 1. Larry , Terrible husband . Terrible Father . Alcohalic and cigar smoker .Knows a lot about cars and is a neat gut to run with . We have smae hobby interests .
2.Bill. He and I used to race motorcycles togeher as a team with factory rides . He was a neighbor and co-worker also . He's my executor on my will and has been for 25 years now . I'd trust him with everything I have .
Hi txjingles....I have these 3 very close friends all of them I've know since jr. hi & hi. school (40 yrs.) The first two I feel closest to than the third.
1. Marsha....We really get along very well & we listen to each other's problems & help each other move. Her family have become my second family. I really grew up w/them 2. Donna. She & I met way back in the 5th grade. I believe we got close when we both married & divorced a couple of Latin men. She & her son lived with me for a while & we found out that good friends can't live together. We're still very good friends. 3. Cindy. I also met her in jr. hi & went to hi. sch. together. I think we kind of went to different directions but we still are good friends & stay in touch a few times a year. She only lives about 30 miles away from me.
Marsha is really my best friend I believe. We do share life with our grandkids now & when all of her family get together I'm usually there also.
Terrific question txj. That's a way to get to know folks. Another question? lol... Have a terrific week. mizz
Good question Liz, maybe I do have a hang up. I make friends and one day move on. I don't hold grudges, so even when things don't always go well, I still consider anyone that has ever been a friend, still a friend. If I liked them once, there must have been something good I saw in them. I don't like losing friends. I have had many male friends over the years from fishing buddies to co workers, but we all eventually move on. Right now, I have no best friend male friend, but one will come along one day. I have a few women in my life I consider a good friend, even though they don't fish........Moto
I have 5 close very long time women friends, although one of them always backs away when she has a man in her life. Sadly this is one of those times. I am glad for her because she is happy but cannot figure out why her having a companion always precludes being a friend to women too. My dear sister is also a best friend. There is one close long term male friend too, but he fades in and out depending on what's happening in his life. I think that our friends remain so because we have things in common and because we give them a lot of slack and accept them as they are, as they do for us.
I have only two " best friends" but many, many "friends" or "aquintancies". My best friend lives all the way in South Dakota and she and I formed a strong bond when we met at a meeting for mentally handicapped children's parent group. She and I both had a child born with a severe brain injury and having gone through the same kind of heartbreak, we felt a deep kinship which develped into a long and everlasting friendship. Sharon and her husband, Paul, were Andy's and my dearest and closest friends during our military days and we spent much time together. Even after Andy passed away, Sharon and I still keep in contact with each other and are always there for one another, come rain or shine. Our friendship was at first based on our mutual interests in helping our first-borns to live a life that was happy and one that let them be accepted by a very judgemental society. We also shared many similar interests such as the love of our families our husbands and our children. We both shared interests in good music, literature and other subjects. My other close friend who lives in my own neighborhood is also European born, like I am and had English as her second language, so we share many values based on our European upbringing! My friends' circle is large as I belong to quite a few professional organizations as well as church groups. Those friends would be classified as casual "friends" who are nice to go to lunch or the movies with but not ones to share one's deepest thoughts with. So there ae many different categories of "friends"- my true and everlasting friends , my gym and pool friends, my theater going friends and my organizational friends. A friend , to me, is someone who stands by you even at your darkest hour. That's when we really know the meaning of real friendship!
Number 1 was my very best girlfriend Diane, She was the friend of a lifetime!!! We were childhood friends. She sadly passed away after a long battle with Cancer in August of 2007. Why was she my best friend??? Despite our differences, we could always see each other's point of view. I never agreed with her at times, nor her me, but you just KNEW we could always count on each other through thick & thin, no matter what!!! I was her caretaker in her final days.......... I know she would have done the same for me........ I STILL miss her smiling face & always will!!!
Number 2 was my girlfriend Sylvia. A friend of about 18 years. Not a life long friend, but we sure went through some trials & tribulations together as older single moms. We had an awesome bond that is hard to explain. I guess it was like sisters. She had just found the happiness she deserved in her life, then died of a cerebral hemorrhage in January of 2008. I'll miss her smiling face as well.
Number 3 is my girlfriend Gail........ I have only know her for 11 short years now.......... But she is simple a rock of strength, even when her own life is not going well. She has always been there a friend that you can count on for anything!!! Always sees your point of view!!!
Number 4 is my girlfriend Irene. She is an awesome person & deserves so much better in life!!! I do not always agree with her lately, but we remain good friends. She is recently divorced & I sure do worry about her........ A Lot!!! We have been friends for about 12 years. My Dad thought of her like a daughter & our grown daughter's are as close as sisters!!!
Pam and I have been best friends since 1975. We have shared an apartment together, partied together, been through marriages and divorces together. We can go weeks or months without seeing each other, and pick up right where we left off just like if we had seen each other the day before. Unfortunately we are drifting apart lately. The main reason is her drinking. I love her, but she turned to drinking because she is unhappy in her marriage, and has turned into an acoholic. And most times, a ugly drunk. And I can't deal with the uglyness.
Then there is Tammy--alittle self centered. But, I can call her anytime for any reason and she is there for me. We have alot in common. We have the same taste in clothes, jewelry, shoes, lol, all the girl stuff. We do listen to different music and out taste in movies aren't always the same. But we both sew, enjoy crafts, photography, flower arranging, etc. We should have been sisters. I gave her a pillow recently that says, "God made us sisters because He knew our mothers couldn't handle us as sisters".
Then there is Jocelyn. She is the same age as my sons. But we are friends. We enjoy spending time together. She does ask me for "motherly" advice. And even if I give the same her mom's does, seems she hears it from me better. Oh, yeah, her mom and I are the same age--our birthdays are a week apart. But we don't see the age difference much. We don't party together, I quit partying years ago, and she is 26, still enjoying the night life. But I love her, and we are close. I can call her in the middle of the night if I need to talk. And she does the same.
Then I have my girl friends at church, we don't hang around together outside of church, but I know I can count on them. And we enjoy each other company at church and church functions. We belong to the same committees, etc.
I have many friends, but only one "best" friend. What makes her the best? We "get" each other, have a lot of mutual respect and regard, and our friendship has withstood the test of time. We know we can count on one another no matter the circumstance and we can say most anything to each other. I can't say if I have any close male friends...casual friendships, yes, but I haven't been able to nurture a closer relationship without the sex-thing coming up! (no pun intended!)
