That fat doesn't matter, honey. That isn't who Judy is. Judy is a warm, wonderful, caring person who is getting herself healthy. That fat is just part of the old Judy and it's going away. Forget about it, it will be gone. No need for shame, those days of adding to it are over now, all in the past. You've been doing a good job at reversing the old ways and slowly, its leaving, that is a good thing, that is your future. Look ahead, not back.
I can understand how you feel. I do not look in the mirror. I realize I am a good person. A caring person. But that doesn't change how I feel when I look in the mirror. I have very ugly arms with baggie skin. I would love nothing more than to have shaply arms. I can work at it but until then I keep them covered in a fashionable way. Unless you're shopping naked no one needs to know what you look like under those clothes. You know you're working on it. When we dress like we don't care people assume we don't care. Have someone shop with you and only!!! pick clothes that show off your best points. Ever watch "What not to Wear?" There are plenty of thrift shops.
As they say - Honey you look Terrfic !!! Say that every day.
You are doing a great job. You have lost weight.
I know exactly what you are going through! I am 60 years old and have been clinically obese most of my adult life, but am finally getting my life under control by simply walking and doing Nutrisystem. Actually, you can do the same thing by monitoring your eating habits cutting out all fried foods, limiting bread and starches and walking. I am slowly beginning to lose weight because I am scared to think what will happen if I don't! Let me tell you, arthritis gets worse, and, this is something alot of women don't realize, but being overweight also messes up your homones. I am just now going through menopause and it has been awful! My regular Dr. put me on HRT, one of the worst ones out there for side effects. It states on the warnings that it shouldn't be used by obese women, so I quit taking it, and plan on seeing a Dr. that specializes in menopause soon. So, I wish you look in your journey to lose weight while you are young so, as you get older, you won't be faced with so many complications of age and overweight.
It's something that is hard to address but you can. Just remember above all else you are worth it. Sometimes we forget how valuable we are and begin to eat to just reassure ourselves we are worth something. Let me reassure you, you are a precious being who is loved. Always know you are loved and please try to love yourself first and foremost the rest will eventually happen. I am sending you a big hug and good wishes. Pam
Good for you for posting your horribly embarrassing moment in this group and Cheaper Than Lipo. Took guts to do that. You could have internalized the pain of that moment, but you came and asked honestly for support.
Other times, you have posted your loss of weight, and we celebrate with you.
Please always remember this is a give and take group. We need your energy, your beautiful soul.
Life has not exactly been a road paved easy for you, even from early childhood. From the time you were a little girl, adults used you. There was no respect. You were a doormat.
I know of few people who have fought to survive as you have. And somehow you found eons. That's not an accident.
Now you can take control of your life.
Takes a lot of undoing and tossing out messages from your past life. But you're doing it. You're doing a food journal, and staying within healthy range.
All of us have had moments of embarrassment due to being overweight. I'm sure most people who read your post felt something & remember those moments. Wipe them out, hard top forget--but better momets are ahead
I want to thank you all for your post,it has helped me.
to go farther with my diet planns.I COPULD DO THIS WITHOUT ALL YOU LADIES.
Dear Judy,
I'm not sure, but I think it's Curves that does not have any mirrors in their establishment. None of us really want to see ourselves in the mirror.
Let's make a pact... that neither of us will look and judge ourselves by what we see in a mirror. There is so much more to us than some reflection.
As Lovesreading would probably say... 'you can't judge a book by it's cover.'
Many hugs :-)
I have been there and am still there its hard when you see the fat, but Geri right this is not who you are at all.Just now I am here for encouragement and here to listen.I still dont like the fat but I am learning to love myself.onehotmama
Oh, Judy, I can relate to what you are saying. I was in a photo with my husband and several other people and when I saw it, I couldn't believe that was me. I went home and weighed and I weighed 193 lbs. The most I have ever weighed in my life, even when I was pregnant.(a long time ago) I made up my mind that I was going to lose weight. I knew diets didn't work so I determined to cut down on the AMOUNT I was eating. I started excercising. Walking on the treadmill mostly. Also some weights. I weigh 174 now and I feel so much better. But it takes time !!! Geri is right. Your body is not who you are. You are loved and you deserve it. You are trying. Do not give up. Think about why you eat and what and how much you are eating. We are here for you and we are supporting you.
Hi Judy, boy can I relate with you. I hate seeing myself naked. At least I used to feel that way. Lately I am beginning to accept myself lose skin, excess fat, and all. I think it was Lizabeth that mentioned about not looking at your reflection anywhere. I agree. I don't. If I'm walking into a store and the glass door shows my reflection, I look the other way or down. I won't look at myslef. If I try on cloths. I don't look at myself until I have the new garment on. Sometimes seeing myself naked can't be avoided and I am learning to live with the loss of gravity at 60 for someone who has lost a total of 160 lbs in the past 2 years. I know the only thing that will fix me is surgery and I don't think we could ever afford it, so I will just have to dress accordingly and not dwell on what my skin underneath my clothing looks like. My Hubby loves me just the way I am for that I am very fortunate. What I hear most of your replys saying is it's whats on the inside that counts and that is the truth. Your are a giving, loving person and thats what matters. You do not have to give in to your reflection. That is your reflection. It might not be the way others see you. Keep up the good work and don't get discouraged. For me looking at my reflection would have discouraged me along the way so I decided not to.
