I have`nt even thought about leaving, I love my wife but it does get a bit frustrating and sometimes lonely without intimacy. Pmac
I'm not always sure. I guess it's love. I know that when she was diagnosed with a tumor there was a lump in my heart until we learned it was benign. I say to myself allot that when I hit the lottery I will move away. but at the same time i tell myself that I will have a few things fixed before I go. And then I say to myself why would I go being that I don't plan on marrying again. I guess I'm just use to bieng and having her around. she's not a bad person.
Intimacy would go along way to improve our relationship but the lack of it hasn't driven me away yet.
i think that was very good chrty. i found that i got used to just being. sounds like me too. i am now exploring my options.
posted by jimmy12
about 1 month ago
I guess I never really thought about it, you know, just did the next thing. Then woke up one day, and saw my life from the outside in. Does that make sense? Saw a person I did not want to be and will never be again. Good luck to all of you going through this. No solution is easy. We must all find our own way.
I appreciate all of you writing I know how difficult It is for all of you. I am getting better as I write with all of you. I dont feel lonely and embarassed about my situation as much when I write.
I still am hard on myself though. I take it easier with me lately.
posted by chrty
about 1 month ago
That is what we are all here for, to be able to help each other thru our problems. It does help to talk to other people that share the same problems. Pmac
pmac and charles I feel so much better writting with all of you
posted by chrty
about 1 month ago
In my case first it was the fear of failing at my marriage, then it was pure stubborness in the fact that I wasnt going to give in and lose my marriage because I convinced myself that I took my wedding vows that they were for life and I intended to make sure it stayed that way. Then my health began to decline and decided I needed to stay for the sake of having someone to help take care of me. But, I am just like most everyone else here, even just a little intamcy would be nice. Even if it was nothing more than just snuggling andd kissing. Having sexual intamacy with her is not even an option now anyway because of my health and medications. And besides we don't even reside in the same room let alone the same bed anymore. It has been like that for almost 7 years now and I am now almost 54 years old. Go figure.
