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Hi Hop, please dress in what makes you comfortable.

Second . . . I am still building my social network, it is hard to fit in with our former friends and those with SO's or spouses or kids still at home. I take what time they have to spend as a friend, but have not really found that "buddy" to hang out with yet. You are not a lepper at all, far from it! What made him able to spend more time drinking with you previously?

People change, don't take it personally. He just wanted to go home- and you wanted to stay. Not a big deal! You probably will need to look for new friends as well as keep the old. Not everyone is on the same page forever. It's sad, but true. Just think of the new friends yet to be made.

PS: forget the suit :) I like the Cowboy boots you are wearing, though.

After my divorce I was able to keep only one friend......my girlfriend of over 40 years...she was divorced and had been for many years......I had to give up all the other "friends"......The wives didn't feel comfortable having their husbands around a woman that was divorced and free. I didn't mind.....they were not real friends anyway.

For some reason.....married people and divorced people can't be friends....I didn't make that rule.....it just seems to be the case.

I agree. It is very difficult to be friends with married couples after you (we) are single again. Lots of reasons. There is an "off balance" feel about it. From my own experience, when I was married to my kids' dad, he had single friends and they would come over, drink lots of beer or go our shooting pool, which I of course stayed home with the kids...so in that case, yes, it was a problem. Not initially for me, because it was nice to have them out instead of at the house, but it did cause issues. Of course, I stepped off into an entirely different story there. But yes, it does become more difficult to remain friends with couples. One of the reasons I joined EONS was to make single friends, for that very reason.

klong....who got the house ? I got the one we had and retained a lot of friends and she wasn't able to . As previously stated , I think singles are seen as a threat . My ex had a lot of them before we divorced .

After my divorce I lost most of my old friends, only because they became a constant reminder to me of when I was with my wife. I had to form a new circle of friends, a group of people who didn't remind me of when I was "us".

I understood, I survived, I saved a lot of money not buying drinks........

but a nice suit is something else.

When I divorced hopper, I lost nearly all my 'friends'. My friends were the wives of my ex's friends. We lived in the town he grew up in. Single ppl are seen as a threat - be it male or female. I've had to develop new friends - and being an introvert that has been difficult for me - but I have done it LOL and i'm not so introverted anymore.

Take it off, Hop. I don't have anything on, in my head shot photo so jump on in, the water is fine.

As for feeling leperish... you just need to realize that if it had been the other way around, your wife wouldn't even want you out there drinking with a single buddy, unless she was along. (now, that's if she is happier with you at home, ok?)
I managed to keep my two very best friends, who worked along side me for several years before they married. Our friendship has nothing to do with marital status so there is not a problem. However, I have not been able to build a good friendship with a couple since moving to Juneau. My best gal friend here is married and our time together always takes second place to hers and her hubby's. I don't take offense, but it does get lonely trying to find new single friends without going out to find them.

Don't feel too bad about your friend. In fact, I bet the same thing would have happened when you were both 20 and one of you had a beautiful babe to charm the pants off of.

Hopper take off the suit! You are a great guy! I agree with so much that is said here, but I like the saying, friends come into your life for a reason, a season...... Good luck to you!