Honey some of us were worked to death and now we are still paying for our past lives wether we want to or not. Tends to leave a bad taste in your mouth and not eager to jump out of the fring pan into the fire if you know what I mean.
Well, I think having a special person in your life doesn't necessarily involve tying up all your worldly goods in him/her. A commitment of self and a desire to share laughter, good times and passion doesn't have to cost a lot.
I know....as geographically undesirable, I am exempt from the above. Anyone who picks me is going to make at least a small commitment to phone bills and travel costs.
But for all of you in the Lower 48....like I said, it seems so simple to me. "I'd like to get to know you better. Are you willing to see where this can go?"
HB, it DOES seem simple. But that "geographically undesirable" mindset is alive and well down here in the lower 48 too. I think it's a conveniently handy excuse in most cases. I've heard it a time or two myself.
posted by lynaz
3 months ago
I agree with that.....makes you wonder why people on line looking.....if they don't want to get out of their home town.
Nooooo ... the rule should be, if the men find a mate and become "out of commission here", it is HIS DUTY to find his replacement and send him in to the front lines.
I am looking at this as a place to meet friends, not meet my soul mate. If it happens, great. If not- so what? It sure beats the traditional singles sites. I think men can tell if you are 'desperate' and run away. Just be who you are and have fun.
I am not able to post often but do enjoy reading all the different perspectives. On this site, in person or through a dating site, people---men and women both----just seem to be so fearful of being hurt again. Although I put myself a bit in that category, I also know that life can be short. I also KNOW that I cannot blame all men for my past relationships which soured nor more than someone can blame me for their difficulties with another woman. So.......nothing ventured, nothing gained as they say as the search continues. Who knows what tomorrow will bring?
I have been in dating sites in my past life and there is just no way I can wrap my head around the idea that this group or even Eons.. is a dating site. I know people do it, but I had no expectations when I joined and I really prefer the freedom to talk or read postings of guys and gals without feeling like I am a fruit for the picking. ;-)
To be honest, if I felt the reason I was here was to be chosen by a man... I'd leave.
How are you going to choose a mate here anyway?? By photos? By witty comments? By well written profiles? Potential friends maybe. Mates?? Everyone one in this group has been burned or had their heart broken at some time in their life. It's not that. I'd say maybe....fear???? I'd be scared sh**less to have someone fly to Juneau with those thoughts on their mind.
I never thought of Eons or this group as a dating or matchmaking site either...it's just fun to meet everyone, male, female, married, single..whatever. I think it best just to relax, have fun, talk and let the expectations of meeting 'someone' slide to the back burner....
