No, I just externalize it.
To the point I believe, my body rebelled.
Too much stress over a long period of time,(my live).
Now I am having to deal with it physically. I try every day to de-stress my life as much as I can. The damage is already done.
So I guess I should have vented. Only problem with that I would have probably been picking myself off of the floor.
Am prone to actually doing it much more these days than in the past, when I'd never permit myself much expression, due to how I'd been treated from earliest childhood. Fear does prevent much 'venting' when honesty creates personal danger. It might feel kinda embarrassing, but isn't it better to blow off steam bit by bit rather than allow 'upset' to simmer, until you really do have a much bigger emotional blow-up? Even so--better to endure those 'big blow-ups' rather than to let all the turmoil inside just make you sick, like I always used to do.
I don't know exactly if I do the same thing as you but I think (although
we are sensitives) our personalities and how we were brought up does having a bearing on how we handle things. I used to take all the criticism my brother dished out on me(which was all the time) in my early years and even up until a few years ago(he still hasn't stopped) and I tell him now to look at himself before criticizing me. It helps me have a better attitude because I just laugh it off. But when I don't say anything I seem to seeth inside. It is a release in me and then I can laugh it off.
I have found that journaling helps. Also, finding a safe place to share, as you have here. I hope that just sharing it all has helped at least a little.
When you or any of us, Pops Their Cork, it is just our Shields collapsing. If you build them stronger you get more internal stress. No easy way on this but trying to recognize the clues that will tell you that the Danger Point is near. You might then be able to "Run" and save your comments for when you calm down. It may be tough to do, but, talking to people and making it clear that they are causing you problems is the only way to keep this from repeating itself. That means standing up for your self. I have grown so use to "Giving In" that I find it tough to stand my ground. I am learning. So can you. Art
I used to burst out in extreme anger when I'd held in and held in but now as I've gotten older I seem to never do that. I just keep holding in and I feel it with palpitations etc. But when I do try to gently let someone know they are causing me stress it makes me even more stressed to voice it. However, I realize there definitely needs to be an out let of some kind. I just haven't quite figured what that is yet.
posted by Global
over 2 years ago
I think I used to do this but I was so affected by my reactions that I just had to find a way of coping better. I'm still not perfect at it but I'm a lot better than I was. I've learned that while things stick with me longer I know they will have less power over me after I've had a few nights sleep so knowing that helps me to think that if I'm going to feel better anyway in a couple of days then I might as well accept that this awful feeling is temporary and move on to think of something else.
I also find distractions for my frustrations which I am finding are increasing due to looking after my mother full time. I will go into another room and scream although I don't like doing this so much as for one thing I feel it draws attention even though I can't see anyone. I rant on the quiet to release it but I know other things to help are screaming into a cushion or bashing pillows.
The sooner you can release it the quicker you can move on and we have to realise that what gets done to us is one thing but what we do to ourselves as a result is not helping keep the stress as short as possible.
posted by Owly1
over 2 years ago
Horah for me!! I have a Mate coming on board who will allow Me to be Me!! Together we will bleed off the Stresses of the Day and make the World
think we are Almost Normal! I will let you know how it works out in the Real World! Art
You can't get much better than that, Arthur! Congratulations!
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