It would be a step that should be taken very carefully I don't see myself moving anywhere I've lived in the same house for 24 years and am 66 yrs old I'll live here the rest of my life. The commitment would have to be there and whoever makes the move shouldn't close the door behind them
they may want to move back. I couldn't ever ask anyone to sell everything to move here I've seen this happen there were a lot of regrets
I took my leap of faith just over 2 years ago, when I sold or gave away all my household goods, quit my job 3 months shy of vesting and moved from Arizona to Alaska.
I did it to be near someone.. two someones, in fact. He's 5, she's 3.
It was a huge leap of faith for me to leave where I had so many connections and come here to a low paying job and no home or furniture.
Would I do it all over again? Absolutely.
Would I now leave here for someone who lives down south? No. I'm in the middle of setting up my retirement and I can't afford another starting over. I have no expectations of someone taking me into their arms (and their pension plan, hehe) to share their worldly goods, including medical care, with me. But the truth is, I've used up my abilities to accomodate others at this stage. Besides, one of the most powerful attractions to me, is a man who is willing to take risks.
As for loving someone from afar... I know for a fact, it can and does happen.
Its a BIG Decision, but, I BEleive it
can be done (IF) the right Person comes
along, on here., as for Family, at this
age, who cares what they think? U need to
be Happy for U. ... Take time & be careful.
I always thought I would eventually meet someone on my way to a teaching retirement and start of spending summers with him, and possibly Christmas break. Then he could return the favor for a few weeks. In time, we'd know if we wanted something more permanent and full-time or not.
It hasn't happened. Yet it seems like it so easily could!
Well, I've already done this once so in theory it would be possible again. But how do we get to know somebody well enough to make such a decision if he or she is a long distance away? Making the move is the easiest part of the deal... it's knowing each other well enough which is difficult.
I MIGHT make a move for a man, but it would have to be well-thought out for an extended time. At this stage of life taking a huge leap in the dark just wouldn't be my first choice.
It can be done with a LOT of communication, BUT you both have to want it. It takes a a ton of commitment to each other, above all else.
Both parties would have to really want it and want it bad to make a decission like that.I left a whole other life style to move here got rid of 4 million people and would not change a thing at this time but now it's for health reasons.
Hmmmmnnnn...I am looking at the possibility of relocation, not for a relationship, just because I'm not sure this fabulous place I live is still the best fit. I am not tied down and could go anywhere I wanted. That said, it would take a whole lot of "something" to get me to move to be near someone unless they just happened to be where I wanted to go.
I have done it...moved from Denver to San Diego. It lasted 2 years and I am back in Denver. If I do it again there would have to be more than a verbal commitment from the person I was moving for. I know I am here for at least 2 more years (because of work commitments) and then...who knows!!! Thank goodness I have a job that is always in need where ever I decide to go!!
Speaking for myself - 4 years ago I picked up and moved across the country to live where I've wanted to since I first set eyes on Colorado 20 years ago. I'm where I want to be, so I'm not inclined to relocate any time soon. Unlike many of you, I'm nowhere close to retirement, and jobs that pay well for us over-50 folks are hard to come by, so I can't see myself chucking it all for a "let's see how it goes". Therefore, I don't look at people who live far away as being a possible mate for me.
