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I am now divorced as of yesterday from a man I was married to for 42yrs. Last year around this time he left me for a woman from his teenage years. He had been cheating on me for many years and it took being separated for a year for me to see this. I have been in theraphy for this past year. I am very happy I am all done with him. I am moving on with some one new I met. What I am afraid of is the ex trying to get back into my life some how. Like a week or so ago my mom was buried she died in Feb. He was there with his girl friend and then he had the nerve to take her to my brothers house after. He left all of this when he left me and now even try to bring her into the fold of my life. Its like he is having her walk in my foot steps. This did make me very upset and uneasy. I had to let it go because it was effecting my relationship with my new man. This new man was there the day of moms burial and kept me calm. It was bad enough burying mom but for him to show up this way I was a basket case. I am sure I haven't seen the last of him and he will try to start something. I am safe now I can tell him whats on my mind and tell him to get a new life with his lady. I think I have done the best I can and I have kept myself under control. How would some one else handle this? My ex has made me very unhappy for years cause I know he didn't love me but I did love him. He never explained why he did what he did. If I tried to talk to him he only looked down at the floor never saying anything. thats when I told him to leave and get out of my life. He also said such nasty things about me in the divorce papers that were never true. With him I found many nasty things about sex with under age teens. I feel he may have been a sexual dviate. The truth will come out some day. I have always felt he hid something from me and maybe that was what it was. Any way I have moved on and very happy.