A broken heart hurts more than any physical pain. It seems to go on and on and they only thing that heals it is time. You know in your head that your will be fine but in your heart you don't think you can go on. Eventually, in time, the hurt subsides and life goes on. In the back of your mind you never forget the sleepless nights and the physical pain in your chest. One day you meet someone new that makes that pain a distant memory and eventually you quit hurting. If you are lucky, you will thank God that relationship ended and you are with someone that loves you back in the same manner you loved before.
posted by qvo50
6 months ago
Broken hearts; it would take time slowly but have your friends and help you be ok, because one day at a time and then you will fall in love again. your heart will be back in whole again. By the way, Met al green in chicago, invited a friend and i to a party. Hear the song I will survive from Gloria Gaynor and you will feel much better. Baby their lost anyway.
It takes time, it took me 7 years to heal and bring the wall down. One nite I realize that fallen in love is the most beatifull and wonderfull feeling anybody can have even when it's not reciprocal, who cares transfer those feelings to somebody worth of those feelings, but never give up.
I don't think you ever love in the same way for someone who was a special love. You CAN love again but not in that way. I do believe we go through phases with love. You can be loved again if you are open.
There is a great movie which speaks to this. The title is CHAPTER 2. It is with James Caan and Marsha Mason and it is about a widower who is struggling to have a new life and who has all kinds of feelings about it. I like the resolution at the end. I have a copy if you can't find it.
Keep the faith.
Hey TD I agree with QVO. A broken heart is excrutiating but we have to look at the reasons why someone broke our heart. Sometimes is even worse if we have to carry the guilt because we caused that person to break our hearts. If that's the case then the first step in healing is to forgive yourself (I hope you read my post on forgiving). The pain will only be prolonged if you don't forgive yourself. The next step is to forgive the person who broke your heart and try to move on with your life.
I was there once and til this day, it is hard for me to open up my heart completely but I know that my day will come. It may not be the same kind of love I knew, but it will be magical cause I am wiser. I hope you find a way to heal and if not, hey you have a family here to help you through it.
Muah, Muah, Muah,
Chuleta
You can't mend a broken heart, it has to heal itself. The real problem comes when your heart gets broken multple times, each time leaves it's mark and makes it more and more difficult to love again, until.....
WOW! I did not expect this outpouring of support! I am grateful to you all for your concerns and expressions of love that you all have shown towards me, BUT, it's not me that have the broken heart. I saw it in an article and just wanted to bring it to our group for discussion. Again I thank all of you!
Forget the other person. If he/she doesn't want you anymore, realistically, you can't make them love you anymore.
Yeah, you may whimper and whine to cajole them to come back, but when he/she comes back you don't continue with the good times. The bad times just take a stronger foothold. I don't know how many times a woman has left me. I just said "Bye". You'd be surprised how many times they have used this line, "I didn't know what I had" when they decided to come back.
Like Ruben Blades sings it in his song "Juan Pachanga". Olvidela!
posted by ed67
6 months ago
TD thanks for setting the record straight and we apologize if we assumed it was your heart that was broken. I was getting ready to offer you my "heart mending kit". Over the years I've become quite handy with it and I could let you borrow it LOL.
Thanks for the post nevertheless.
Besitos
Chuleta
