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Message 9 of 17

Cancer, too late for hope.

Hi, my name is Jay. I do not have cancer, it is my twin brother whom I love very much who has it. His name is Mark.
He is now in the last stage of cancer, the stage where absolute pain and suffering are his daily companions. Our Mother and Dad are still alive. Dad is pretty much out of the picture,he has alshiemer. He has visited Mark a couple of times. Mom is sharper than a nail and in good health. She visits him daily. I am a truck driver. I have visited him many times, but not daily. Mark used to be the black sheep of the family until recently. I have been the favored mainly because I am a communicater and as such have kept up with my family weekly and often daily. I enjoy an excellent relationship with all in my family. I have one other brother, not a twin. Bill is 2 yrs younger than Mark and I. Bill is very smart. He and I were both in the Armed Forces, he in the Navy on a sub, I in the Army, jumping out of flying planes-hellicopters-ballons. He became an electronics expert, I became a tank and truck mechanic. Billy has been able to visit Mark twice since his hospitalization. I contacted Bill concerning Mark. Mark has pretty much been a rebel all his life. His real atributes are gift of gab(very useful in sales) and in mechanicle applications. Mark and I share many common atributes, but we do have some very different interest as well. I have kept myself in very good shape phisically and mentally. Mark,on the other hand, smoked all his life. Hence the cancer. I too smoked but gave it up 15 yrs ago. I will miss him once he is gone but I will have a great many good memories and a few pictures. For now I try to get a dispatch to Houston,Texas to see him when ever I can. I am greatful for the time I still have to be with him. His time is very short. I write this because I have never experianced the loss of a family member. I don't know how I will deal with it. I know that our age puts us(me and you) closer to death of friends and loved ones. Regretable. But we will adjust and in time get over and used to it. I have no clue what it is like to be dead. But that time is coming. Much later I hope. :)

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Hi Jay: My best friend just lost her husband to cancer. when they found the cancer in May, it was already spreading in his body and spine, and finally went to his brain. We just couldn't believe that he had cancer. He did everything right in his life. Never smoked, no drugs, wonderful husband, great father...yet somehow cancer got a hold of him. It must be incredibly sad to see your brother die, especially your twin brother. I simply can't imagine all the feelings you are going through right now. It's a good thing that you think about the good times you had together, and I am sure in time you will smile about the memories of your "rebel-twin".
You are right, the older WE become, the more we have to deal with death - our friends, relatives, and also our own death. I don't think it's ever easier and I can't say that I have gotten used to it. The hurt of the loss seems always very strong, but certainly stronger, the closer you have been. I believe that death is like going to sleep, but I know many believe differently. I believe there will be a resurrection when I can see all my loved ones again (including my dogs and cats!) That hope gives me a great deal of help in dealing with death.

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