If they are happy with the situation, there is no problem. However, if there is a disparity in desire, that is when the problems arise. I don't know nayone who is in this situation, but then how many people would tell another about something like this.
From things I have read, younger people suffer from this more than people our age. the demands of working, raising children, chauffering, etc. add to the problem.
Well from what ive read or heard, sexless marriages in younger people that are working and raising a family just seem to have every hour of every day booked to the point of exhaustion and just seem to have no time and or energy for sex. They say the answer to that is to make a date for sex on the weekly calender..yes pencil it in..and make no excuses. It doesnt sound very romantic does it. But i suppose thats what it takes these days when you are up to your necks in work and then PTA meetings and soccer games and baseball and ballet lessons and what have you. For older couples i suppose if there are medical conditions or medications one is taking that cause lowered libido, there may be ways around it and i would suggest talking to ones doctor about it. I dont believe its something we just have to accept because we are getting older and or having to be on certain meds.
Of course theres also boredom that may be a cause of sexless marriages. When a couple are together for a long time and sex becomes routine....who wants that....and it becomes longer and longer a period inbetween and from what ive read the longer you go without it the less you seem to need or desire it. But the more you have it the more your body desires it. So if your healthy and its just boredom or a busy schedule make time! and do it other than in the usual places to make it more interesting or romantic.
Anyway thats just my humble opinion on the subject.
I have been married for 30 years in April. For the past 12 years there has been NO sex in any way shape or form! There are many reasons, but believe me, it's not pleasant! He sleeps in the bedroom at the back of the house and mine is in the front of the house. It used to bother me plenty but over time, PLENTY of time, I've adjusted. Now we are only roommates with nothing in common.
I as well left the room from '98 to 2004... re-entered and wish I could get back out... what has importance or is significant to some... has litt'l to none to someone else and it's a ache that may lay beside you... hold you close when people are around and leaves you to be up late and on the internet... alone again... naturally. (hey what a name for a song)
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