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• • Paris-born Sarah Bernhardt [22 October 1844 — 26 March 1923] was a stage star.
• • Painter Eric Finzi traces present-day celebrity culture back to the giddy scandals of French actress Sarah Bernhardt, the belle epoque actress of stage and screen whose paramours, male and female, made her the (pre-Brad) Angelina of her day. [Eric Finzi at Heineman Myers, 4728 Hampden Lane, Bethesda, MD.]
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• • In what way is hating "extremely fatiguing"?
• • Comments?
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To hate does damage to a person's own self. It is such a negative emotion and it drains the hater. Best to turn thoughts to a more positive direction...not necessarily love, not even forgiveness. Speaking for myself, it's much easier to simply ignore what I could hate and focus on something I enjoy. That withers, and finally kills, the bad feelings and thoughts, giving more energy to the enjoyable ones. Might not be the answer for everyone, but it works for me.

• • Very good advice, DLLY1935! Thank you for the comments.
• • Down-hearted thoughts about people who did me dirt tend to stay with me. I don't know why but these do dog me. I must try to adopt your approach, which sounds very sensible.
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If hating is defined as the act of being unforgiving rather than just intense dislike, it can be very draining. Forgiveness is done not for the person to be forgiven but for the one doing the forgiving. To not forgive is to drink in a poison yourself hoping someone else dies.

You can hate those who wrong you, despise their acts, not associate with them, and wreak punishment on them YET still forgive them. Forgiveness is what makes takes the hurt out of hate. Forgiveness means you will no longer allow the actions of those you hate or who have wronged you to have power over you, to diminish you.

Forgiveness is NOT condoning what another did. It does not absolve another from guilt. Forgiveness frees the person doing the forgiving to move on, escape the past, and ease their own pain. Forgiveness may bring with it forgetfulness or, at least, the ability to set aside the past and not carry it with you always like a sack of manure complaining how it stinks up your life.

• • Sebastian wrote: Forgiveness may bring with it forgetfulness . . .
• • I have a great deal of trouble forgetting anything, alas.
• • People with bad memories are blessed.
• • On another topic: I thought more people would not have forgotten Sarah Bernhardt.
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The great Sarah has been dead for over 90 years--longer than most of us have been alive. Her talent has been obscured by the likes of Marilyn and other little talents whose claim to fame is their looks and their scandals. Constantly plastered all over the media, people of little quality take up the memory of the masses to the detriment of those of great quality. The Paris Hiltons and other Pop Tarts get the most press and the most money over those people who work hard and well. Why? Because people pay more attention to what is said and written than they do to seeking out quality for themselves. Laziness always wins out. How else to you explain Hot Pockets, AOL, and that Spears tramp?

Sarah Bernhardt died the year my father was born. Given to spells of dramatics, I grew accustomed to my mother calling me Sarah Bernhardt. I knew she was an actress back in the old days, but that was about the extent of my knowledge of her.

Hate is a killer. I don't have time for hate. I learned a long time ago to let go. Maybe this makes me a hypocrite, but I have a hard time forgiving, how do you forgive the unforgivable? I'm afraid I haven't got the hang of it. But I am able to let what I am finished with fall away. I just drop people that do me harm like a hot potato!

• • My mother called me Sarah Bernhardt, too — — the only "nickname" she gave me that I can mention in polite company. It was not meant as a compliment.
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