marriage -stay in or get out
Marriage
I am a working grandma who was retired but had to go back to work because my husband blew thousands of dollars & almost all my savings behind my back. He doesn't have another woman & I don't have diamonds or furs, but he can't explain where all the money went - just that he spent it. I am questioning myself as to do I just get out now & start all over again at 53 or do I just stick with it & hope it will get better. He has done this 3 times in our 33 year marriage. This last time he forged my name on 2 checks that totaled 2,500. to cover bills he had not paid. He had over 7,500. in overdraft charges on his bank account last year. He opened a credit card & took out a personal loan without my knowledge. He was having his bank statements & correspondence sent to a PO box in town that I wasn't aware of. Rather than let him go to jail for fraud & lose his carrer, I paid for one of the checks he wrote & forced him to pay for the other. I have spent all of my savings & have only a tiny bit left in money market. He has a 401 K but I have no way of knowing if he has tapped into it already or not. If I leave, I would truly be on my own. Texas doesn't have alimony & most of his retirement from the service is in disability, so I wouldn't get probably even $1,000. a month from that.
What do you do when you cannot trust the one you married?
I am a working grandma who was retired but had to go back to work because my husband blew thousands of dollars & almost all my savings behind my back. He doesn't have another woman & I don't have diamonds or furs, but he can't explain where all the money went - just that he spent it. I am questioning myself as to do I just get out now & start all over again at 53 or do I just stick with it & hope it will get better. He has done this 3 times in our 33 year marriage. This last time he forged my name on 2 checks that totaled 2,500. to cover bills he had not paid. He had over 7,500. in overdraft charges on his bank account last year. He opened a credit card & took out a personal loan without my knowledge. He was having his bank statements & correspondence sent to a PO box in town that I wasn't aware of. Rather than let him go to jail for fraud & lose his carrer, I paid for one of the checks he wrote & forced him to pay for the other. I have spent all of my savings & have only a tiny bit left in money market. He has a 401 K but I have no way of knowing if he has tapped into it already or not. If I leave, I would truly be on my own. Texas doesn't have alimony & most of his retirement from the service is in disability, so I wouldn't get probably even $1,000. a month from that.
What do you do when you cannot trust the one you married?
