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I have read so maney things to help me understand how to help my loved one as he is aproaching death. But I would like to know how others cope with the waiting time and the unknown. I have been careing for my Mom . Everyone asks how long do you think she has ? My brothers call asking if I think she will go soon . Their is no schedual when a person is dyeing just as their is no exact moment we can pinpoint on birth. All we know for shure is we have today and every moment counts . It is much more comfortable to live our life with a plan in mind . The first thing we do when we care for a child or a elderly adult is get into a routine or a schedual . Their is no schedual when it comes to death. Its the one time we drop what ever we were doing and get their for our loved one. Hopefully we will be blessed with the oppertunity to be with them when they dye. For me personally this has been a true test of faith. Maybe this is Gods way of getting us reconected with faith. Much of our life we try to crontrol our destiny and feel fear and worry and anxiety. I have now learned whenever I begin feeling full of fear this is my intuition telling me to reconect with my faith that everything will work out just as it is supposed to it always dose . When we are in a state of believing or Faith only positive thoughts can come to mind like love compashion hope and acceptance . This is how I have learned to cope. I would like to know your thoughts and teckniques for copeing with the inbetween time the waiting for your loved one to pass. Maybe we can help each other as we experiance this journey of time as we get closer to loosing a loved one..