I see that in men and women.....both.....not sure what causes that. Maybe they want you to know to stay away from them. I do.
Gez I do walk up the stairs to the office sometimes, good exercise, but in a elevator with one of these people is geez uncomfortable , their offended if you get on the elevator ...so I really could imagine there dating life,
dont do this and dont touch that ?
You live in the same climate I live in bibi. The sun may be shining but people are still suffering from the winter blues. It isn't until around June sometime that they start to get friendly. Also lots of negative stuff happening in people's lives because of the economy - that's enough to put a frown on anyone's face. You have to consider the times we're living in - recession/depression and something major going haywire everyday. Not a whole lot to smile about. Some people like yourself may be more resilient that way but not everyone is. I think maybe you should cut folks a little slack. If they're still looking sullen in July--- well, there's still nothing you can do about it. Try saying the Serenity Prayer - that always helps.
I don't know ana, I was thinking the same thing yesterday while walking on the greenway. I noticed people around 40 and older, would look me in the eye, sometimes smile or nod their head in acknowledging they saw me. People younger would make a point of looking straight ahead never looking at anyone or making any kind of acknowledgment that anyone was anywhere around. Rather like the "me" world...no one or anything matters but me....I also think it's people like this can be standing three feet from a vicious crime taking place and they "never see" anything...simply because they don't care...lack of common human decency.
Oh I left out, I always smile and say hello to everyone I see while walking...it always seems to make me feel better...
I pretty much the same way Georgia, everyday is a gift and a challenge but I normally say hello good morning, good afternoon, speak when spoken to , is how I was raised , being rude is not one of the traits I take in to the day, and if your wondering why your good looking self is alone with a frowning , it really could be the simple attitude .... or you have permanent constipation,,, !!!!
Bibi, I don't understand what being good looking has to do with all of this. Are you saying that the ugly people are smiling and saying hello?
yes, they do, more so but i would call the average looking marti... not the other word..
I walk almost everyday on a small navy base. There are no military folks except for the captain. When I walk I always say hello to everyone I pass and I am always amazed at the number of people who look away or don't respond. There are only 3000 people here and I hold a very public job plus with walking daily, you would think that most of these people "know" me. And bibi, it doesn't matter how attractive these folks are. My unscientific observation is that the men rarely respond; more of the women will acknowledge me.
Again it goes back to the times. People are not as "community oriented" these days as much as they were even a few years ago. It's all about speed and staying in your own lane in life. I happen to live in a quite friendly city. I call it a big small town because there are 80,000 people here. Folks will say "hi" and talk to you in stores etc. However, things are changing here too. There is now a high unemployment rate and also a vast increase in crime especially shootings. I have noticed a change in people's faces and demeanors. But, I still think a lot of it goes back to the "winter blahs". I can't wait 'til the weather warms up and I can start walking around the Marina again and yes, having conversations with strangers. If you are expecting the Midwest to be like the South bibi forget it. Midwesterners are just not geared that way.
Personally I don't think *looks* have a thing to do with who speaks and who doesn't...at least not where I walk...it is the ages of those that is so obvious to me...I, like ginger walk that trail all the time, I see the same people and have for the past couple of years...some of us older women will stop and talk for a bit...if we don't see one of the regulars we all wonder if they are okay and are always happy to see them again...again I don't think it's weather related...it's the cold uncaring feeling too many people have in this day and time. my thoughts on this topic....
