I am so sorry to hear about that, Deb. Please hang in there.
My husband died of lymphoma too...this is very sad news...
Deb, my heart goes out to you. How unfair life seems at times. I know your mother-in-law values the close and loving relationship you have developed with her over the years. I agree the death of their son was and is a very hard blow, something all parents hope to never have to face, out living their children.
I know you bring them much comfort and love and that even in the midst of your grief and anguish you are there for them.
Bless you
Love Ya, Lyn
posted by lyn07
over 2 years ago
Deb, I am also so sorry to hear about your mother-in-law and it saddened my heart just to read it. This is such a difficult time for you already and I can only imagine how you feel. Nothing that I can say will change what is happening except to let you know that we all care and when you need a place to let it out we will be listening. I know that in the grief of losing Ken that it meant so much to both of his parents to have a part of him with them thru you. When you have given everything that you have to those around you that need you and you feel like there is nothing left to give - come here and let us care about you. Joyce
posted by Joyce4
over 2 years ago
Oh Deb, I don't even know what I can say, except that my heart aches for you..Last Dec. 20th my husbands father died, Jay had died in Sept and I was not close to him, in fact had some bad feelings for him. He hadn't been much of a father to Jay his whole life and when Jay was laying in the hospital and they came in and said he only had a week to 2 weeks left, his dad said he was too sick to come see him, all of his siblings offered to drive him up there and wheel him in a wheelchair to see his dying son and again he said he didn't feel well enough to do that. But the day Jay died his dad felt well enough to take a car ride to Oklahoma to live and it takes 12-14 hrs to get there. So I was really angry at his dad he could have for once been a dad and it would have meant the world to Jay..The reason why I am even telling you this is as angry as I was at his dad and had no feeling of sadness for his passing, when he died it was like Jay dying all over again, for some reason I connected the two and it was almost as if someone had pulled the stitches out of this gaping wound and it was all open and raw and I cried so hard for Jay. So I know this has to be horrible for you losing his mother who is so dear to you. God Bless You and I hope he puts his loving arms around you to comfort you in the coming days. ((((((((hugs)))))))))Dawn
Deb: I am so sorry. It is going to be a hard Christmas for you and your family. I will pray you find some solace in this terrible ordeal.
posted by jmd459
over 2 years ago
Deb, I'm very sorry to hear your news. Sometimes, as we well know here, life seems very unfair. Please continue to talk to us and know how you are doing. We all want to support you.
Deb, I am so sorry to hear this news. It has to be so hard for you right now. You know you can always come here and vent when you need to. We are all here for you. I hope you can find some peace for this holiday. Hugs......Sue
Deb, my heart goes out to you - and to your mother- and father-in-law. What a cruel gift for the season that is supposed to be joyful. But, perhaps her leaving will be a gift to her soul. I know you will be a support to your father-in-law, and he to you.
God bless, girlfriend.
hugs.......marty
Hi Deb,
I was sad to read your post, it must be so very hard. I think I would take solace in the thought that Ken will soon have his mother for company, I know you will miss her very much,and it is going to knock you sideways for a lot longer yet. I wish you, and your family a peaceful Christmas. Jeanette xxx
