Marty, I understand your sense of loss and grief as you looked at the picture. I often look for my husband in pictures that we take. I know he will not be there, but somehow we look incomplete without him. Sometimes when I see me in a picture and see the smiles I feel a bit guilty as if I should never smile again. Then I remind myself of how he would want me to live and know that the smiles are what pleases him most. I am glad that when the picture was taken you could see how happy you looked, I am sure it is how your husband would want you to look.
Each small step brings the healing, but I think we will forever have the emptiness and ache of our loss, but at the same time we will find a way to go on and live our lives in such a way as to honor those we lost.
Thinking of you
Love Ya, Lyn
posted by lyn07
over 2 years ago
Marty,
I hope you share those photos with us because I would love to see your little babies. I'm with Lyn that it was great that you looked so happy and yes, we deserve to be happy and don't feel guilty over that. We need to laugh and smile and no not the put on smile that I sure know how to do, but the true smile that somes over us when we are not thinking about our spouses for one mili-second of the day. David is so proud of you and you know he is smiling at how far you have come, I know I am. Please don't be sad and enjoy the photos and the dogs.
Love and hugs,
Kathy
Ann and had a signature photo - I held the camera out and took photos of us with our heads together. We did this every place we went, I have tons of them. One year we did this with the entire family and the photo turned out so good we used it as our Christmas card. Now, when I go places, there's no signature photos. It is sad. Sometimes when I look at photos of holidays or family get togethers, I am "blindsided" by sadness when I realize that Ann is not in those photos.
I had professional photos taken last month of me with my three grand daughters...it was informal clothing..jeans with pink or purple tops...they came out very well and I used them in the Christmas cards too...Had the SAME overwhelming sadness to look at it...see my self smiling and so in love with those little girls but my dear sweetheart was missing...He never even knew the youngest one as she was just born last Dec 28.....time does march on doesn't it? We will never be the same BUT we have new roads to travel alone and we must do it and trust God with our future....HE does have a plan..
Christmas blessing to all of you.
Lani
Marty I am glad you had the photos done and that you looked happy. David would want that for you. I was looking for some Christmas photo's for a group that I am in and I found one of my husband 4 years ago and it made me sad because he will not be in any Christmas photos anymore. I am also sad that I didn't take more photos of him through our life. I alway took photos of nature and animals. I hope for a peaceful Christmas for all of us. Hugs.......Sue
Marty, I can see how the photos made you feel sad. I haven't taken any pictures of me since Jim died for just that reason. I bet that if David had a wish it would be to see you happy, just like you look in the pictures with your fur babies. Joyce
posted by Joyce4
over 2 years ago
I just added one of the photos to the group album...
I wish we had taken more pictures. We'd travel and my Mom used to tease us about it. She said she never believed we left town, there were no pictures of US in those places. So I wish we had taken more pictures when we were younger. The few I have of him remind me of how his illness progressed.
