So What's More Important?

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Would you rather have "hot" sex or someone who is adequate in bed and can carry on a conversation, share goals and values, and is great to have around?

posted by TestofF8th

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For me no question about it : conversation, share goals, values and great to have around!!

posted by LisaRod
over 2 years ago

I would say share goals, and carry on a good conversation great to have around , then go forward adequate sex because we were listening to each other , and them what do you know hot sex and a great conversation and were great to have around each other

posted by bibi1955
over 2 years ago

Adequate in bed, can carry a conversation and share goals and values is great ot have around, just the "hot sex" called friends with benefits are just not my type.,,

posted by gnibaby
over 2 years ago

Hot sex, is not the equivalent of FWB. FWB is two people who are just friends who have sex together. I wouldn't think that would mean the sex was Hot or even Good, just available with no strings or commitments. A convience of sorts.

Why can't a man be capable of Hot Sex, having an interesting conversation, shared goals and values and still be great to have around? I have dated such a man in the past, so I know they exist. I want it all! Why shortchange myself.

posted by Redpattikake
over 2 years ago

No question, hands down winner is someone with whom I can have an interesting conversation, shared goals and values and great to have around. The hot sex would pale quickly without the rest of the package, and the adequate sex can become hot the better you get to know each other and the more you care about each other. Even if it never did, I'd still want the conversation, goals and values over the hot sex. (Now, if I could have it ALL ... that would be the best!)

posted by mickchick
over 2 years ago

Sex is like air, it's only important when you aren't getting any.
God gave man a brain and a penis, but only enough blood to operate one at a time.

posted by earworms
over 2 years ago

Why does it have to be one or the other? I have had both before in my man...hot sex and someone who is adequate in bed and can carry on a conversation, share goals and values, and is great to have around. Too bad it turned out that he didn't love me. Damn.

posted by mizvic
over 2 years ago

this is silly but Y not have 2 men ~~ one for each????? LOL

posted by poolgrandma
over 2 years ago

If they have a claim to fame because of their expertise in bed, then they have too much experience for me. I would rather have a great friend, conversation and we together can make our sex hot.