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LOL Good one Ana...I believe questionable is it doesnt agree with your morals... Immoral is it doesnt agree with anyones morals...

You also have to consider the source..who do you value more? I work with a person who almost everyone they come in contact with has questionable morals or do things they don't approive of etc. That person will make a claim right out in a crowd about someone like the apple doesn't fall far from the tree etc.

I might listen to a warning but I would have to make my own decision and give the person benefit of the doubt.

You are so right Ocean...consider the source...

Unfortunately, I have dated men I was told had "questionable morals". This was almost always in the area of business practices. I guess I wanted to judge their characters for myself. Usually what I found was that the people "warning" me were right on. I think "questionable morals" can mean several different things, some based on hearsay, some on actual facts pertaining to laws that may have been broken. Whatever the case I think anytime someone with credability warns you about such a person a red flag should go up. Considering the source is of course, very important.

To me, questionable morals means that they are morally inconsistent. Their decisions or actions are not predictable/they don't follow a consistent moral code. I also agree that you need to consider the source who is telling you this, but most likely, I would avoid getting involved with such a person intimately or perhaps in any way.

I somewhat agree with Anakris, but morals and ethics are two separate issues, and the business practices fall under the ethics category. Questionable or not, I would not rely on rumors or hearsay and prefer to make my own judgment on those issues. I have quit jobs because of the ethics of management or the owners that did not agree with mine. As far as partner material is concerned, I would quickly figure out whether their values (morals) are similar to my own.

Ana..

This is a very good question to post , lucky me I been out on the road today shopping and such, great having the blackberry read the question and had alot of time to really think about it.

so here it goes generally speaking I don't listen to anyone carrying a bone I did that once believing that a family member would not do that any one being you and information about someone that they know and they barely know you should not be trusted in the fist instance, especially speaking about morals.. and gossiping thats one of the seven deadly sins.

The person probably in the long run that they are referring to is so likely a ok person but a meal ticket for them in some way sponging they way in and out of their lives like the worms in a bad apple..

you can determine if the person has morals on your own, using your own god given judgment if some really has your best interest at heart they will trust you to make the right decision and not interfere in what my be possible for you in happiness or avioding the bad stuff ... you will never know by listening to anyone else but yourself...

Yes, sir! I couldn't agree more. I will take it under advisement.....but I will make my own judgement, based on facts I have gathered on my own......what they say vs what they do......how honest they are....things like that. I've been blessed with a certain amount of intelligence, and I'll make up my own mind....not pay too much attention to outsiders' opinions and gossip.

And quite often it is gossip. I wouldn't totally ignore it, but I would be more cautious because of it. Still, it is unfair to judge someone based on what you have heard from others. I might pay a whole lot more attention if it is someone who had dated this person.

Testo ...

I would put alot of stock in that either even if the person dated them people hold grudges and a number of untold faults against people they dated that didnt workout out,

what didnt work out for you my work out fpor me if i dont color it over im not wearing rose colored glasses either , if you give a person your potentially considering a fair chance the possibilities are endless ... but if i start out with a jaundice eye i setup them up and myself for failure based upon a false premise ... and that's not fair at all, and because of a bias of another person...

i like making my own determination, if i am wrong ok, two shots on jd move forward , if im right champagne and chocolate , life is to short for anyone else to be involved in this game of life...our make or interfere in your decisions , i think for myself.. even here on Eons...