Lets see -I was raised in the South-lived in the Midwest and Northeast.
People in the South and Midwest seem to be friendlier than in the Northeast. In the Northeast-things are more rushed-that why a "New York
Minute" is alot less than 60 seconds.
Us southern boys are a little more laid back-and we talk a little slower!!!
You betcha. The people in the NorthEast are more direct, say what they mean in business and socially. I've lived i different parts of the country; NY/NE, South, Midwest and West Coast. My husband was interviewing a gal who would move to the NW if hired. In the middle of the interview she stopped and asked, "Tell me. Is it me or the people here?" He knew just what she meant.
To go from the South to NY is quite a culture shock. I did it the other way, NY to the South, so I know what you mean. My dad used to kid about the "Southern hospitality" and manners. "It's the only place I've lived," he would say, "where people smile in your face and as soon as you turn around, stab you in the back." He was a Southerner who moved first to Chicago and then New York and over time came to like the Northern way of relating, up front, doing things "now" not "when I get around to it," -- even for busted plumbing pipes or overflowing sewers. But knowing both cultures he was able to move from one to another and adapt. "Thank you very kindly, sir" he knew to say, even though underneath he thought the guy a miserable s.o.b.
The differences in people and cultures points up the differences in humanity -- and what makes this country so varied and wonderful. Type "A"s thrive in the NE and those who prefer a more genteel society in the South. Isn't it wonderful?!
I am born and raised in Maryland and I agree men here seem to be not just up front but sometimes they can be rude and mistaken about how to treat a lady. Not all mind you just some of the ones I have met. I have met some real gentlemen also.
I have met a few men from further south and maybe it's not a fair comaprison in number but it does seem southern gentlemen do have a different mannerism and gentle spirits.
I am not judging eith north or south but females are probably different also. It is just our envireronment and maybe some religeous bacckground also may play a part. Just thinking from past experience..
I live in Florida and most men here are either from the NE mainly from NY, and they are direct yes, but
not so friendly and they lack manners, in my opinion, at least the ones I have met. I have lived also in the South and men are more polite and have good manners. Of course you can also meet very nice men/women from the NE but they are always in a hurry.... LOL
Also here in Florida, we have ' latinos' but I don't have any contact with them, jsut a few at work, and they are married! They are very polite and have good manners, though :)
GG your dad was right about the smile on the face and stab you in the back, when I worked at a major corporation years ago and would take over the south when the person was out I hated it, they would be sweet as pie on the phone and when they person came back from her vacation they were hateful. My area was NY I would fly up there all the time I loved it, if they get upset they say "F-you" and thats it, its over and you can keep going to the next subject its not personal. True on the NE im a A type personality and it works for me.
I don't know how northern folks are raised-but in the south it is alot about manners. You know the yes sir-and no mam thing and being respectful. A Lady is a Lady until proven otherwise-and should be treated like one. My dad used to address young women as "Little Lady".
Northern folks-can't answer that one.
I hate it, absolutely HATE it, when someone refers to me (or any female) as "little lady." Sorry, halboy, but to me it is so demeaning. But then I grew up in the northeast. :)
I have lived in the Rocky Mountain west and the southwest all of my life. I have dated men from different parts of the country. My favorites have been from the small mountain towns like where I was raised. I am too much of a western mountain woman to hang out with most men that I have met from the east. My newest beau is from Germany but he has been in this country for about 40 years and lived in this area a long time.
My grandpa was from the south and I was raised with good manners, as were my kids and grandkids.
Please don't call me "Little Lady" or "Young Lady", those are fighting words. I find that to be very patronizing. I am a woman.
I live in California, we don't care how the rest of you "speak." Heck, most of us out here don't even speak English, even our Governor doesn't speak English!
The little lady thing is not intended to be patronizing or demeaning- I am talking about a very young female-maybe 10-12 yrs old-not to a mature women. No body is talking about referring to a mature woman as little lady-that would be demeaning.
Just wanted to clear that up for you!!!!
