Setting Boundaries
During and after your divorce process when you are emotionally and mentally raw, you should keep yourself safe by establishing firm boundaries with your ex.
For instance, your home is now your home, not theirs. Establish new procedures. If you get upset when you speak to your former spouse, limit your conversations or don't have them at all.
Make certain they know that when a conversation starts heading south, you will terminate the conversation and resume it only when everyone is rational and in a safe place. If need be, let the attorneys handle as much as possible.
You really need to keep yourself at a safe distance from your ex in all aspects of your life until the divorce is over and you have established some emotional equilibrium again.
You also should keep yourself away from any emotional entanglements right now because there is still an emotional cord between the two of you. You want to limit any emotional triggers. Communicate to your ex firm ground rules.
Learn to say no. Take charge of your recovery.
For instance, your home is now your home, not theirs. Establish new procedures. If you get upset when you speak to your former spouse, limit your conversations or don't have them at all.
Make certain they know that when a conversation starts heading south, you will terminate the conversation and resume it only when everyone is rational and in a safe place. If need be, let the attorneys handle as much as possible.
You really need to keep yourself at a safe distance from your ex in all aspects of your life until the divorce is over and you have established some emotional equilibrium again.
You also should keep yourself away from any emotional entanglements right now because there is still an emotional cord between the two of you. You want to limit any emotional triggers. Communicate to your ex firm ground rules.
Learn to say no. Take charge of your recovery.
