What Would It Take?

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What would it take to get your attention and let you know that you were being flirted with?

posted by Humrmeplz1

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Although I don't feel that I'm consciously looking for a relationship, I thought I was open to the possibility. I had a gentleman that I have had an ongoing professional association with ask me just this question.

I've rarely been the type of person who is at a loss for words but I found that I was at that moment. The possibility had never even occurred to me and he seemed hurt that I was unaware of his advances. After some stammering and stuttering, I told him I'd get back to him on it. Geeze... Who knew?

Are you as aware and open as you think you are?

posted by Humrmeplz1
over 2 years ago

It would take electricty

posted by necklass
over 2 years ago

I think I'm fairly aware - or at least used to be - it's been a while. I've always liked to flirt so that helped me be pretty alert to the flirting games.

The business I'm in is heavily loaded on the side of males, so when I'm at the many meetings I go to each year it makes for a convenient setting for flirting. But most of it is very innocent - innocent enough that if you acted like you wanted to take them up on it they'd probably tuck tail & run as fast as they could.

Humr....sounds like you're out of practice - so you need to get those juices flowing again!

posted by TooYoung2BeOld
over 2 years ago

No. I can't see it coming unless it hits me on the head. Hard.

The funny thing is... I can flirt with anyone I'm not attracted to, but go completely stupid around those few that draw me like a moth to the flame.

posted by Ladydulcinea
over 2 years ago

It's hard to separate sincere attention from an agenda (Hey, you look fantastic today! That is definitely YOUR color. Um..um..um... Would you cover my 2nd block class during your planning? Thanks, you're a doll.) No wonder we tune out what might be obvious hints.

For me it would take meaningful ongoing conversation. Ive never been very good at flirting, so a direct statement might be required... or a bolt of lightning (electricity!). Eye contact, a warm touch, and a handful of wildflowers wouldn't hurt.

posted by joanielind
over 2 years ago

Good question. I'm not sure I have an answer. More overt than covert, but not pushy. Joanielind made very good points.

posted by CelticAutumn
over 2 years ago

Too, you could be right. I'm out of practice but I don't know that I would have ever gotten this one. Even now, I can't really picture it as real. I'm not good at projecting what might be possible anymore. I think my plan will be avoidance until I can get more comfortable with how to respond. I don't even allow myself the possibility of considering another relationship.

I have to agree one hundred percent with the electricity... 220 volts perhaps.

Thanks to all that responded because at least now I know I'm not the only one.

posted by Humrmeplz1
over 2 years ago

I hope you know I was just teasing! (Takes one to know one - as they say. Ha!)

So was his flirting THAT subtle, since you don't know that you'd ever have gotten it?

The best thing to do is probably to just relax & go with the flow - enjoy it. You don't have to rush into anything - just lean back & let the warmth flow. Then maybe that 220 can hit you! : )

posted by TooYoung2BeOld
over 2 years ago

Kidding or not, you are right!

I have always found him to be friendly but nothing that I would ever have considered flirting. I guess I just haven't felt any chemistry with him but honestly, I wasn't looking for any. I can conveniently avoid him without being obvious for a while anyway and see how I feel about it in a few days. I sure hope I'm not having a power outage!

posted by Humrmeplz1
over 2 years ago

You should have told him....a Delivery from the Florist....lol

I don't usually pick up on subtle hints....a man has to be pretty direct if he is trying to get my attentions.