I haven;t had any luck for many years. The last one I really thought was the one wasn't even though we are still good friends. I don't think there is a Mr. Right for me anymore, he died or something. I don't think of it as thinking they are the one but leaving the idea open they could be the one. As time goes by and we are alone longer and longer I think our standards get enlightened..LOL
Oh I don`t know one should treat everyone they meet as the one. Present your best image just in case, if it`s not to be at least they`ll remeber you as you wanted them to.
i AM NOT LOOKING FOR MR FOREVER JUST MR NOW! If I can enjoy someones company and he can enjoy mine it will last longer. I am particular in who I date and if it works...great..if not..I will chalk it up to fun!
If I look at all now, I'm looking for a friend. If it were to grow into something more, fine. If not, can never have too many friends! I've got a (female) friend who has been looking for Mr. Right for the past three years and has gone out with players, losers, and users trying to find "Mr. Right" She's also scared the bejesus out of several who may have been decent guys because of her need to find Mr. Right and plan the rest of her life with him right away.
Personally - I think it's a bad idea!
I wonder sometimes if we were to choose to use the phrase of "meeting" Mr./Mrs. Right might make a difference in how we see people instead of "finding". I think it would make it easier to relax and not feel as though we are at audition.
I don't know about you all, but I remember looking for a job. I don't like to equate meeting a possible partner in life with work.
Im not looking for mr right... but I do have male friends that are friends who I love dearly. and not they are not friends with benefits, they are true friends... If something should develop from one of our friendships great if not then have them as wonderful friends is perfect. I have people try and set me up but I just let nature take its course and if something happens it will happen... if not thats ok too...
Everytime I think someone is Mr. Right, I'm worng...
I like Leprikin's approach, for it's mine. No agenda of 'forever', that 'perfect person' -- just someone to enjoy each other's company -- for now. If it develops into something more, that's great But no expectations other than finding someone who I enjoy spending time with and he with me.
Hey, I am simple, I just want a dance partner, no strings attached! :}
I think if you start with the expectation that someone is going to be Mr./Ms. Right, you are setting yourself up for certain failure. Much better to be cautiously optimistic at first...throw in a bit of skepticism too. Good balance. To do it any other way is putting too much pressure on a new relationahip.
