I don't think I would do this unless I am currently dating them but if it is in the past I say let sleeping does lie. If you are friendly with them on a everyday basis and are still chatting with them or remained in touch by all means send a card it all depends how the relationship ended I guess.
well...generally I would agree with you on that, but if its been long enough and they are now just friends, I dont see what it could hurt...I have several that I send to, if I send ...lol.
posted by kdfn
over 2 years ago
Depends on the person and how the relationship ended, what the relationship is now. There are a couple of guys I do send Christmas cards to, one I won't, lol!
Oh, heck, I don't even send cards to my ex-husbands, and we all parted amicably enough. Sure not going to send cards to ex S.O.s and previous dates.
Of course, now that I think about it, I no longer send cards to anybody. Haven't done that in more than a decade.
why would you want to send cards and open cans of worms? Unless of course, you really like worms? Yes, I know the reason for the season promotes peace and good will towards all men, but really.....
No I would not, maybe the peace and good will happens with letting go.
For the most part I've remained friends with many guys I have dated in the past. Ex husbands? Well, that's another issue. But just because our friendship didn't turn into something more doesn't kill the friendship, at least for me. Nor them, apparently.
Like is like, But then I don't automatically see everyone I go out with as a romantic prospect to 'land' forever and ever and if it doesn't work out, discard them like an old t-shirt. Friendship is the most important to me. Romance without friendship seems kinda carnal and that type of relationship isn't one that's going to last very long for this gal, anyway.
I am friends with some long ago lovers and I treasure their friendship. So, I will send a card on birthdays and holidays. Sometimes I get a phone call or two, "How the hell are ya, gal? What are you up to?" and then they share with me what's going on in their lives. Even including their relationships as times. "My girlfriend is giving me grief about "X"? How do you think I ought to handle this? What does she mean? What's a gal's take?"
I treasure my friends and long ago lovers I am so pleased to be able to retain as friends.
Ain't working for me. There's a reason they are a part of my past. Same goes for me being a part of theirs.
