I wonder if you had the same person contact you that contacted me yesterday - PMinVA. He was obviously looking for a date - Boy, was he barking up the wrong tree, since I have a life partner -a woman, LOL!!
I wouldn't worry. You can always block him. I personally am not concerned about what I have in my profile. I'm all over the internet - there's not much that's secret about me. I'm not usually leery of people. I tend to take them at face value, and want to think they are just as sane as me (ha!) and don't have a hidden agenda. If that's not the case, I let them go on their way, or only meet them (figuratively speaking) as far as I am comfortable.
No that isn't the same guy, but I'll keep an eye out for him.
The man who contacted me the last time found me in a Woman's group, he was lurking.
I had my hometown listed and he said he was going to be passing through soon, so I did block him.
If you knew you were going to meet people here on Eons in a group, or four or five of you at a time that is ok. I'm just not looking to hook up here thats all.
Agreed - I didn't meant literally meet them - I meant on an...intellectual level. :-)
I know what you mean. I have had total strangers write PM's and it can be a little scary, especially if you don't have someonesecurely in your life. That's when curiosity and temptation can be dangerous. Sure, there are those who made out well with what started as an online friendship. I recently took a trip to meet two online friends that I had been "talking" to for over two years. In this case, I felt I had gotten to know them well enough and felt they could be trusted. Even so, my son and daughter were concerned enough to let me know that if things weren't as I expected to find them, or if I felt that it wasn't safe to stay, that they would somehow arrange for my return immediately. Charlie even promised that if I called, he would drive out himself to get me. Fortunately, everything turned out wonderfully and I have some beautiful memories of my online, (and now, real life,) friends. Still, sometimes you hear of how such meetings turn out badly and can even be scam artists trying to take you for whatever they can get. You two have the advantage of being well aware of the dangers, and are leery of strangers offering immediate relationships. I believe, after my own experience, that online friendships can turn into real life ones, but caution is always a good thing. Take you time to get to know the person first. You'd be surprised how easily you can spot a fake or a fraud if you give them enough time and room to let their true selves come through in their conversations. One good thing you are already doing, keep personal information such as where you live and work to a minimum on your profile. You can always share that on an individual basis after getting to really know the person in question. We're all here to socialize, but we must be careful just how we do it.
i too am VERY protective..of the info... i display on my page... i used to
belong to another site..(my 1st experience with online). an i had posted
my info.... an my pix.... an my daughters pix..etc... (which i will never do
again) an he traced me... an found outt where i worked..he ended up
callin my home (my # was in phone bk) as well as my work #... he scared
me so much.... i ended up changin everything...an had to instruct our
operator at work nott to putt him thru anymore.... we must all be very very
careful...these daze....at least i think so....
I have had the pleasure of meeting 4 eons friends in person. I am married so maybe that is why I am not as nervous about my info as I would be if I were single and living alone. I have met some strange people on eons but being a pretty good judge of character have ignored or blocked them. It is always better to be safe than sorry.
I've had my info all over the internet and never had anyone bother me (yet).
If I do, I can get ugly enough to warn them off. If anyone should have the guts to trace me to my home without my permission, they'd have a very unpleasant surprise what with the dog, the protective husband, son and neighbor, and my own nastiness when threatened.
And that's the other side of Kelly that doesn't have to come out very often, thank goodness!
LOL! You go girl! At least now I know who to call if anyone gives me trouble! LOL!
High Jeanie! I'm not very protective of what I put online -- the "personal, private" details on my Profile page are things that ANYBODY could find out about me, if they wanted to. I don't believe there's really any such thing as "privacy" with what you put online. I've gotten a few e-mails, "friend" invitations, and "group" invitations, that I'm not interested in; if I'm REALLY concerned about the member who sent it, I "block" them, and never hear from them again!
And for most of the components of your Profile page, in your Privacy Settings, you can set different parts of your home page at different security levels. There are 4 levels (the 1st is the most public, the 4th is the most private), where you can indicate who can "see" which sections of your info:
1. Everyone.
2. Eons members.
3. Only my friends.
4. Only me.
Maybe it's just a matter of changing your Privacy Settings, so only your Eons "friends" (which, obviously, are people you're already comfortable with) can see it. And don't forget, you can ALWAYS "block" ANY member of Eons -- "block" them IMMEDIATELY upon receipt of an unwanted e-mail!
Also, if you're having trouble with solicitations from folks who are looking for romantic, sexual, relationships, just post in the "Relationship" part of your Profile page, "In a serious relationship. Interested in meeting people for friendship and networking." Even if it's a small "fib," it's ok, and a good way to keep that kind of stuff at arm's length.
I rarely get unwanted e-mail, especially since I switched from Windows to Mac. I get none of those, "If you'll just cash this check for me...," or "I've been looking for a foxy chick like you...," or "Discover how to be debt-free in 48 hours!" Anything like that automatically goes straight to my Junk/SPAM folder. If you redo your settings, you should see an end to this. And when all else fails, "block" them, banishing them forever into cyberspace! Stay High and Peace! Alison
I don't accept friend requests unless I "know" them from a site and am comfortable with it. I just decline it. If I get a PM that I am not comfortable with then I would block them.
My hometown is where I was born, not where I live now. I am married, so that is listed, so I haven't had those types of issues, but I like you try to be pretty careful of the information I post.
I also don't use my picture for that reason. I know some don't like that, but I am just not comfortable posting my picture.
