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Of course its there for all of us,its the aging process and our friends dying that brings us to
the realization that we are now the older folks.

"Die anytime"....are you ill/depressed?....you shouldn't feel that way unless there is a reason. Yes, we realize that we aren't going to live forever and yes, some of our peers/friends are dying....but then so are 20 year olds (especially if you work in a hospital and see who dies). I would think you wouldn't be thinking so much about that...but looking forward to "living" the second half of your life with a positive attitude and hope to "live" to the end. I do feel time "moves" faster now than when I was younger, but I'm more aware of what time means now and it's relation to what I'm doing. My future is no longer "out there" but I know it is now. Hope you can find some peace with the "clock."
BJ

Have you had a birthday recently? When my 50th came along, I had months of that doom and gloom feeling. I'm approaching my 51st now and it's been okay for a while. Just that birthday hit me hard.

I sometimes think about it. I mean, anyone can die at anytime for any reason. And when people younger than me die it makes me wonder why? I still feel relatively young but every new ache or pain makes me think--is there something I need to see the doctor about? But I do not worry about this but the thoughts do cross my mind now and then.

i understand exactly how you feel sonjia , especially when you have friends that are younger than you and they just die suddenly .. no warning .. just kickoff .. i try not to dwell on it too much but the thought is always there .. anyday can be my last and i'm aware of it .. as opposed to the 10 feet tall and bulletproof attitude i had in my 20's .. i think its a natural observation to have . some of us notice it a bit more than others .. i'm a musician and lately i've been noticin a lot of other famous musicians i admired were dyin at the age of 57 .. i think the things we used to do without hesitation are now things we outta think about now before we do it .. maybe its cause i just turned 57 myself . all i know is i'm gonna take this year a bit more carefully .. if i make it past 57 i'll feel a little better .. probably just an ocd thing or somethin tho .. but i'd hate to think i'm puttin the zutchies on myself .. but when you see the list of dead rock stars who died at 57 it gives you pause .. i'd list em but most of em you probably wouldn't know and the ones you did it would just bum you out ..

Just a little scientific explanation on why time accelerates as you age.
When you are 4 years old, 1 year is 1/4 of your life, and therefore it seems to last a long, long time.
When you are 64 years old, 1 year is 1/64 of your life, and therefore seems to go quicker then it did when you were younger.
Now to smoke another doobie.

PO put it well. While we can die anytime, it hits us more as we age as we realize our odds of dying are rising dramatically. Working for years with a pension plan I have noticed this if it is any consolation to anyone. It seems once you make it past 55 and your health is good, you have a pretty good chance to see 75. I've noticed a gap between those ages. I mean it's not like no one dies between 55 and 75, but in my experience in working with our pension plan, mortality between those years tends to be pretty good.

The forgetfulness is part of aging but I also think that is can be part of our mental state at certain times of life. I know that since my husband died at 58 two years ago I often found myself floundering. A usually super active person I'd find myself sitting, accomplishing nothing and unaware that time had passed. Part of this state had to do with light depression as well as feeling overwhelmed with what was ahead of me. It has almost been two years since losing him and as time goes by I find myself returning to my former self little by little.

I don't worry about dying. If I do, I have lived a good life. I don't take for granted that perfect health and good heredity means anything either. My husband did everything right, was one of the healthiest people one would meet. We both came long-lived families (90's), yet this none sun person died of melanoma. Go figure. What his death did teach me is to live every day as fully as possible. Take time to smell the flowers so to speak. Live a life full of good karma....do for others and be a good person and when you need help it and the love of others it will be there. Money is just money. It and material things are not what makes us happy. Being independent is important. Standing on one's own feet frees the soul. Life goes on. We never forget those left behind, but in order to honor their lives we must push forward and live the kind of life we would have had they lived. Rejoice in the new lives entering the world and appreciate those growing older with us.

I have spent the last couple of years getting stronger....it has reversed the aging process somewhat. I have a long life ahead.

I can't identify Sonjia but then, I'm 10 years younger than u r. My kids are in college and in some ways my life is just beginning. It may be alone but I have a lot of things to accomplish yet.

Yes, you're right. Time is flying faster and faster. All it means is that you have to really get moving to get in all the fun you can have in one lifetime. This is a good thing and probably the real reason we have skits and other forms of fun.