Be unstable. Throw yourself out of your comfort zone. Be insecure!
Being unstable makes you want to stabilize.
You start to compare and set reference.
You start to see things in details.
You want to catch up so that you will be on par with the rest of the world.
You want to be the same as others, for the sake of comfort.
You move with them, the constantly improving ones.
Hence, being instable is actually being stable. Ironical, right?
Taking a break and resting (for a short while) is good. But too long a period becomes detrimental to your future.
Improve through being unstable. It helps.
Actually, I have spent most of my life living in unstable situations. I have learned to go along with it while enjoying the surprises that come. (not that I haven't wished for more stability, I do!)
Everyone has fears though ....I have a magnet my son-in-law bought me that says "do one thing everyday that scares you". I try to remember to do that.... it builds up courage.
Not only does it build courage, but it helps you realize you can do anything you damn well want to do OR have to do! :-)
So true! Some people equate stability with complacency and I never want to be complacent about anything. Life is fragile, and so is stability. To learn to deal with instability is a life skill that is very valuable.
And often, from instability comes a new and better sense of what is important in life....and what truly isn't.
Cali
First part of my life was very unstable ... then a long period of stability ... back into the unstable now, a little better prepared ... the wheel keeps turning!
I really like and agree with what you said, Cali. complacency has never been part of my make-up...but having a unstable life has taught me to trust in the universe and in my own ability to go after what I want. We do have a part in the dance....with that being said, how often did we force something that never should of been, all because of wanting to move out of instability? sometimes just allowing yourself to be unstable...or with the feelings, fears and worries of it, brings about new life. This is where most of my growth has been.
unstable is as unstable does
if you think unstable then that is what you will get
"Allowing" is the key here, I think. It's amazing (sometimes) when you stop trying to make something work that (clearly) doesn't want to work and you let it go, how something better that DOES work comes along. It's that whole control thing that we have to give over. I'm much better at it now, but it's still an issue I have to remind myself of occasionally. Apparently, I can be stubborn about some things...:-)
Wow! This came to me at just the right time! I am still digesting it all. Trying to believe what I just read and accept that it does apply to me!!
I just realized that I will never make my current work situation work for me. I will never fit in, because I won't compromise who I am. I am literally getting what I asked for and the disrespect and alienation too.
I have to disengage, I need to stop taking it so personally, and accept it for what it is. [sighs]
I strive to control my life but sometimes I have to let it run its course! This is so terribly difficult for me, almost impossible! I have learned to be stuborn out of necessity, I have learned to control my life and situations, and I learned to protect my interests with fierceness. I have survived! Yet now I have to learn to let go and 'allow' life to lead? I am scared. LOL
I have never been a "sheep" or a blind follower, however, I want to believe and need to believe, so I have learned to believe in myself.
How? Please tell me step by step, HOW?! [smiles]
Clairty, your post was a blessing for me today, as well, thank you.
I think each and everyone one of us feels unstable with our life circumstances at times and its all part of being human.
To think you can get away from not feeling it ever,will only put some sort of guilt trip on yourself and others. Positive thinking has its place but its not meant to take away your human experiences. It's more a tool to help you through those unsettling times.
