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I agree with you. But I do think there is a recognition that can happen. In my spiritual belief, the soul recognizes a past soul or future soul connection....Its about being soulmates.
I have also heard that we unconsciously connect to people who will mirror us...say I have some unconscious "stuff" to work out...someone comes into my life to aid in that and usually, we aid in each other's growth.
Theres lots of different kinds of love. All part of the human experience.
Love at first sight can be the spark of something very important or just an attraction that is about hormones. It starts as romantic but needs time, respect and commitment to grow into a deep lasting love. I don't think romantic love is frivolous....its really beautiful and such a sweet time....and needed to lay down the emotional foundation to build something substantial?
I am such a romantic ....What I have learned though is not to discount it, but to give romance time to show it's potential.

Complicated, multi-faceted subject for me.
However, in short, I believe what is commonly called "love" is not an innate emotion.
It must be taught.

My husband did. Hasn't had a peaceful day since

that was lust gmom... LOL

Mt husband and I had been searching for each other for many years, maybe many life times. We belong together and it was love at first sight. Or maybe we loved each other before we met. I think so. I feel like I've always known him.

Awwww, mrschris, you bring tears to my eyes! Maybe I'm not the total cynic I like to think I am.

"Being in love" and "loving" someone are two totally different things. One can lead to the other, or they can remain separate.

Starry, this reminds me of the post in PW where we talked about spiritual connections reconnecting in this lifetime. Kinda spooky ...

There are so many ways we meet these days. I wonder about that.

Biology tells us about the first 3 minute gestalt- the taking in of the "total" person on face to face meeting. We react to the look, the smell, the vibe and all other aspects. We make up our mind in that first meeting about the suitability of the other for love or for other social interaction. The mind fills with chemicals that excite parts of the brain and stir action. So in the biological sense we "connect" in love potential very quickly. We fall.

Biology tells us as well - the seven year itch thing- that we slowly change in our feelings and chemicals for our partners. Are we programed for genetic divesity? The need for multiple partners?

But biology is not the full story. We meet in many ways and in many times. We are not always ready or available for another or they for us. And biology is altered by culture and by the individuals themselves. Romance is more than biology. Bonding can be very deep and long lasting and desirable.

LOL Louise, I was wearing a navy mimi-skirt

I hope no one here is offended but guys rarely "Fall in love" at first site or first meeting. We "Fall In Lust" the love part comes a little later after we get to know someone.......... Maybe not the faerie tale most of you ladies would like to believe but honest is honest.

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