Part two of Dating AGGGG!!!!
On my previous post about the "frustrations of dating" there was some interesting points brought out as well as some "questionable suggestions" as to how come the cold shoulder after the actual date which was led up to by multiple meetings...for the most as I also agree with, move on...it didn't click...was it because I did something wrong or broached the wrong subject or made a inappropriate advance. I can assure you it was non of those...I have always said I was a redneck.........but more than that " I am a southern gentlemen redneck"...with all of the input from my fellow 50+ers...I started analyzing ( did you ever notice that "anal" is the first part of analyzing...kind of puts it into perspective ..lol) ...so here's my questions or vision however one would want to look at it...what is the worst thing that occurred in the beginning stages of a relationship that through up the red flag that it wasn't going to work.
Here's my story
I tried the POF dating site and connected with a woman who's profile seemed very interesting .....we communicated via e-mail and then phone...arranged a neutral spot where we could me that had lots of exits in case either one of us wanted to run madly from the building. We met, it was good. we continued a line of communication and had the second date...then the third ..I picked her up at her house and she invited me in...she had told me she was a widow and had lost her husband to a freak naval accident (military). Well needless to say she had a "small" memorial in side her living room dedicated to him. Now before you jump to conclusions..I was ok with this ...mainly because it was her house and I was a guest there and it was none of my business how she chose to remember her late husband...we went out....for some reason she felt compelled to explain about the memorial....and by the content of the entire conversation I could tell she was not yet at the stage of moving on with her life...I listen and commented when I felt it appropriate....( from the the two years on here I have developed some do's and don't rules while on a date and I am ever guarded not to talk about "ex's)...still yet this was not the proverbial nail in the coffin for me..we continued out communication and arranged another date ..on the night of the date I picked her up we went to a restaurant and had just poured a nice glass of wine. When she started to tell me of a Navy tradition of having a " coin medallion" made with a ships name on it along with the serving dates or tour dates and when there was a crew change the medallions where handed to the crew as they left the ship...She then reached in her purse and pulled out a slightly larger than a half-dollar medallion....she then said..I had this made it has my husband serving times aboard his ship....I flew to London and met the ship when it came in and I handed one to every crew member as they departed...I looked at the coin and commented on how nice it was and slid it back to her..she go's oh no ..its yours I want you have one to carry........Well that was the straw that broke the camels back...I had no idea who this man was and was not going to carry a memorial coin around of a complete stranger..I told her that made me feel awkward and uncomfortable and I felt it was best I took her home....and that was that......I couldn't accept that
So that was my worst one
Here's my story
I tried the POF dating site and connected with a woman who's profile seemed very interesting .....we communicated via e-mail and then phone...arranged a neutral spot where we could me that had lots of exits in case either one of us wanted to run madly from the building. We met, it was good. we continued a line of communication and had the second date...then the third ..I picked her up at her house and she invited me in...she had told me she was a widow and had lost her husband to a freak naval accident (military). Well needless to say she had a "small" memorial in side her living room dedicated to him. Now before you jump to conclusions..I was ok with this ...mainly because it was her house and I was a guest there and it was none of my business how she chose to remember her late husband...we went out....for some reason she felt compelled to explain about the memorial....and by the content of the entire conversation I could tell she was not yet at the stage of moving on with her life...I listen and commented when I felt it appropriate....( from the the two years on here I have developed some do's and don't rules while on a date and I am ever guarded not to talk about "ex's)...still yet this was not the proverbial nail in the coffin for me..we continued out communication and arranged another date ..on the night of the date I picked her up we went to a restaurant and had just poured a nice glass of wine. When she started to tell me of a Navy tradition of having a " coin medallion" made with a ships name on it along with the serving dates or tour dates and when there was a crew change the medallions where handed to the crew as they left the ship...She then reached in her purse and pulled out a slightly larger than a half-dollar medallion....she then said..I had this made it has my husband serving times aboard his ship....I flew to London and met the ship when it came in and I handed one to every crew member as they departed...I looked at the coin and commented on how nice it was and slid it back to her..she go's oh no ..its yours I want you have one to carry........Well that was the straw that broke the camels back...I had no idea who this man was and was not going to carry a memorial coin around of a complete stranger..I told her that made me feel awkward and uncomfortable and I felt it was best I took her home....and that was that......I couldn't accept that
So that was my worst one
