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I've been married twice. The first one lasted 8 years, the second nearly 28. After the heartbreak of my second marriage failing after so long it would take a near miracle to get me to commit again. There is only so much pain one heart can take. I don't relish the idea of being alone in my old age but there are lots of cures for loneliness that don't include the words "I do" or "forever and ever".

I married my first husband when I was 19 and divorced him at 21.

I married my second husband at 24, divorced him; then married him again. We count the first anniversary as our anniversary and have been married almost 20 years.

For me, the first time was about being pregnant and thinking I was in "luv" and living up to the parents' standards - all bad reasons for getting married in my opinion. The second time, was about adventure - we'd only know each other two weeks and were both newly sober - again, not good reasons for getting married. The third time (again to my second husband) was about being committed and seriously wanting to be with this guy forever - finally a decent reason to get married.

I think if someone is willing to settle for getting married just not to be alone, who are we to judge? It may result in a long-term committment with loving benefits for both parties. In some cultures, marriages that place between persons who haven't met, or have met only briefly and those marriages work out - so who's to say what are good reasons and what are not for any given person?

I really can't say given that I'm still on my first marriage; but for me, I'll never get married again.

Hopefully, one learns from experience. If they keep marrying the same type and then divorcing, they are slow learners.

I don't think just having been married before is a negative. Marrying the same 'type' one can't live with is,

Now, Elizabeth Taylor and Zza Gabor are another issue. Seven or eight times might be a bit much.

I think that up to 3 marriages is ok but anymore than that seems a bit much to me but that is just me. I have been married twice but my first marriage was very short lived...my second lasted 24 years and I have been divorced now for 14 years and I really am not looking for a third one. I am very comfortably single.

Never say never.

It's no one's business how many times a person chooses to be married. My first marriage lasted 18 years. Now after 31 years of marriage I am about to become a widower. Will I get married again? If you can tell me how much money I will have in my wallet one year from now I will be able to tell you if I might marry again. My crystal ball is broken.

Your right LIGuy, never say never.

That's not to say that I wouldn't date or even live with someone, I just don't think I would actually marry again.

I said that before my 2nd marriage.

LOL..I leaned a long time ago to never say never...every time I do, I always end up eating my words...but after dating for many years after my divorce, I finally gave that up too...so someone would literally have to drop out of the sky....LOL

I have a sister who has been married seven times and she told me last week that she doesn't need a man!!!! LOL If ever there was a woman who needed a man, it's her! I want so see if she can go a year without getting married again. Bets, anyone?