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You don't know what it means and I doubt that 3/4 of the people who include this in their profile know what it means either. From my experience with online dating many times the ones who wrote "No Games" were the biggest game players of all. Why? Well as the saying goes "it takes one to know one". That could be a tipoff that they are projecting onto others what they themselves are. At this point in time I would gladly pass over anyone who wrote "No Games" in their profile.

Well I know you ask for the men to jump in here.....but.....let me tell you what I have learned. Most of the dating sites deal with men looking only for sex.....they really don't want a relationship. They don't want the woman playing games....but at the same time that's just what they are doing. They do not want to pay $39.99 for sex.....they do want your e-mail address...that doesn't cost them anything and you really should not give that. They don't put a photo on there because they don't want some people to know they are on a dating site.

Also there are lots of dating sites out there and if you look you will find a lot of the men on ALL of them........and they have been on there for a very long time....what does that tell you??

Be careful and don't be surprised if you get used.....I have also found that a lot of the men are really married....but they wont tell you that.

I also know there are a lot of women on these sites that use men for sex...and getting free meals and such.

That has not been my experience so far. What I am finding, at least in my age group (late 40s, 50s, and early 60s) are men who have been traumatized by divorce after 20 or more years of marriage. They may not be looking for a relationship yet, but they are looking for emotional and sexual healing.

Careful with the stereotypes. While they are true for some folks in any group, they can blind us to the complexity of individual experience.

One mans point of view-
To start with-Men tend to get a bad rap-after reading some of the posts on EONS-it seems that a large number of you girls think that men are just a bunch of insensitive sexual predators.
I will be the first to admit that there are plenty of those out there-but not everyone is not like that-so don't paint everyone with a broad brush.
There are alot of sad stories you girls have about how you were abused by some guy. Trust me -some of the guys have some sad stories too.
As for "No Games"-it means no games-don't mess with my head or my heart.
There is an abundance of female Gamers too.
I don't do online dating-seems like a lot of very shallow people-I am not looking for some brain dead twinkie!I really don't care if you go to the gym-or how many times a week-that is not what is really important!!!

I don't post a picture-frankly I don't have one-I could and probably should-it damn sure won't look like George Clooney-probably more like David Crosby.
I am not married either!
So that is my two cents on the subject.

Right on, hallboy! Online is only one way to connect with people, hopefully some prospects to meet and maybe, be a match. What I am reading more often than not from posts on here and in some personals ads is all the negatives one can have; "no heavies," "no alcoholics or drug addicts", "no game players", no this, no that. All those posts and ads say to me is that the person is soured from their life experience and would be a damned poor choice to reply to -- unless one likes cuddling up to a porcupine.

We can state positively who we are, positive qualities we would like to have in another -- and keep one's eyes and ears open (and mouth shut) for habits and traits we don't tolerate. All the negatives say, "I've been burned before and dang you, you could be one of those, too."

Online isn't 'dating' -- it's just a way to make an initial connection, that's all.

It works both ways, too. I met someone who lives very close to me. Got involved. Seems she left out a small detail-although seperated, she's still married.

I wish people in this group would get over taking personally what is said regarding gender. For the most part people speak out of their own experience which mainly means they may have been hurt or traumatized by maybe one or at most 5 people of the opposite sex. That hardly implies that the whole male or female population are insensitive predators. There are more women than men in this group and women tend to be more verbal so it stands to reason that there will be more women commenting possibly in the negative. I for one am very careful in my posts and replies to include both genders "HE/SHE" so as to stay politically correct. I think we really need to put all of this into perspective.

Divorce traumatizes most of us...one way or the other........and this is not a put down to men.......I know that women do the same thing.....I don't date women so its hard for me to know what all goes on with them. I'm sure there are a lot of really great guys out there.....I'm just not sure a "dating" site is a good place to meet them......at least that's what I have run into. I tried it and got shafted more than once. I don't do it anymore.

If a guy does not put up his photo on a dating site, it sends a message (true or not) that he is married and doesn't want anyone to recognize him and tell his wife. Eons is not a dating site, so whether you have a photo up here or not is irrelevant to this post.

I would venture to say that almost everyone in this group is in some degree of pain, either as a result of widowhood, or a result of one or more divorces. I would also suggest that that pain never goes away, just goes underground, and everyone's comments here reflect their own personal degree of pain, whether they are aware of it or not. We should keep that in mind.

Back to the original question -- "no games," please. Exactly how would someone "mess" with your head or heart?

I agree that the no photo problem either reveals that the person is digitally challenged (I'm not talking about fingers) or is married.