I think in some cases the parents do want to be their children's friends but I also think some want to make their children happy for whatever reason. My 11 year old neighbor was just telling me that her mom took her to the movies on Friday night to see the new Twilight movie and that the movie didn't let out until 1:20 am.....I thought that was insane.
Yes, the majority of the parents today are too permissive. I really couldn't understand why you couldn't wait until the weekend to see that movie. I did not allow my daughter to go anywhere on a school night unless it something at the school. I raised my oldest grandson and he was not allowed to go out on school night but she raised the 2 younger ones and she allows them to go where ever and then they are to tired to go to school the next day. She wants to be their friend not their parent. Needless to say they 2 younger ones had a very hard time in school--failing whole semesters for missing to many days. It pisses me off but I think the next generation will do a better job of parenting.
Well a Friday night I think would be different. As a big treat, yes I would allow that if going with an adult, not a group of unattended kids. It would make for a great sleep over party take a group and have them stay over.
On a school night, no never and they would only get to go if during the week all homework was done. Rewards for good behaviour are the way to go................tells them that being responcible gets rewarded.
A parent is not a friend. The parent should know that the child has their own friends and its not YOU!!!!
I do not think there is enough discipline today and they are not learning SELF discipline either.
The answer is yes. Even elementary school kids think they have rights.
As for movies on a Friday evening, I'm not dissing that, but just the theme of "Twilight" and "New Moon" are not appropriate for an eleven year old. What's with the Vampire thing. Even Anne Rice has changed over to Angels.
have to agree, would not have let my children go to a mid night showing of a movie on a school night.
Growing up I was not allowed "any" weekday activities unless it was a baseball game I played, or a school play. Granted some of the things I was invited to do would not be a memory for me today, but this movie, a first showing of an author who's stories are more popular than "Harry Potter". This is not just any event. This is a huge shared first time social gathering. Like a big club. If my child were performing well at school, behaving well, making thier own money, not too young, I'd go with, or drive them and their friends if needed. I think it is a memorable occasion. Let them go.
Give it a few months. There will be a new teenage actor that teen girls will lose their heads over him and the actors who starred in the Twilight movie will be forgotten by them.
Oh yeah....We got trouble right here in River City.....Why them young whippersnappers are..................................
I think there is a lot of deep-rooted guilt about leaving kids on their own too much; hence all the toys and clothes and privileges thrown at them. Most mothers have to work these days. Yet they feel guilt over the fact that maybe their own mothers were there for them when they got home from school. My mother was there when I got home, but I would hardly call it quality time. She wasn't my best friend and I certainly didn't expect or want her to be.
I think parents should grow up and act like adults before they have kids.
posted by JFKRJK
over 2 years ago
I agree with those of you who are saying that parents want to be 'best friends' with their child rather than an authority figure. It never works. Many times that kind of relationship can lead to a parent being put in the position of defending their child even though they know the child is in the wrong. I've seen it time and again. Parents do their kids no favors by trying to be a peer; kids need and want limits, otherwise they just get into trouble.
