well dave it's pretty simple .. if you like the girl and you think she likes you ask her out for coffee or a smoothie .. if she says yes then she just might like you .. or maybe she never gave it a thought but since you asked now she is interested .. if she says no then probably not .. of course she could always say no not this time but can i have a raincheck ?/ i just can't today .. then you ask when she can and go from there .. the worst that can happen is she says no .. not today not tommorrow or not ever .. in that case i'd say nope she ain't interested .. but that don't mean her sister ain't ..
as usual, frenchie gives great advice!! I agree with him.....go for it....nothing ventured, nothing gained is my motto.
And we over complicate these situations because.....
If you find the woman at all interesting, go for it! Give her the advice or help she is asking for...then ask her out for a cup of coffee. Too often, men AND women our age are just afraid to take that plunge.
...and that's just it...we need to take a chance now and again. You never know what will come of it.
If you get shot down, then you have your answer. If you get a positive response, you may have taken the right chance. Nothing ventured, nothing gained.
Hey, they don't call him FRENCHIE for nothing !!!
Okay let me put a different spin on this question and his professional situation.
I do not think it is a good idea to date clients from the club for a variety of reasons.
If things do not work out the club will probably lose a customer. In addition she can file a sexual harassment suit against the club to get back at you for any number of reasons.
The other women in the club will not ask you for advice for fear of you hitting on them. Rumors and backstabbing will hurt you, your reputation and the club.
If you happen to meet these ladies on the outside and they still show an interest in you then by all means go for it. I would just ask others that have dated members of the club what happened and how it ended. Find out if anyone was fired or sued as a result of a bad breakup.
Sorry to throw a monkey wrench into this but it is your reputation that is at stake here.
fellamhg took the words right out of my mouth. As an aquatic fitness instructor and private trainer I do not date men from my club or whom I train elsewhere. #1 it is not professional, #2 it can get you in plenty of big trouble. Check out your club's policy. I know of a woman who was head of the entire fitness department at one club who had an affair with a member and not only was she fired she pretty much has been black-balled by all nearby clubs.
Women naturally flirt with good looking trainers. Often they are seeking free advise or help. Talk with the other trainers, your supervisor and club director.
I had one gentleman whom I was dating outside the club who then decided to join because I taught there. Shortly after that we parted company and he no longer wanted his membership since he only got it to watch me and what I was doing which creeped me out. I went to the director and begged them to let him out of his contract, more to protect me than anything.
good point, fella & dd.....hadn't thought about it from the professional standpoint probably because I've never met anyone in a work setting that I would consider dating.
Fellamhg got it right. The first thing I thought was "sexual harassment" and you will lose your job David. DDDanse made the next great point--check out the club's policy. I am the manager at my company (not a exercise place) but I remind my employees not to interact with the customers. And I've been approached by some of the customers myself and it was a very tricky situation to gracefully declined yet not offend the guy. Real tricky!
