There seems to be some controversy over who does better living alone as a single person. So far most people I have talked to say women seem to do better. Some attribute that to the friendships women generally have with other women. Just what is your take on this controversial topic?
Ana strange that you would ask that question tonight yes I am alone
I think men are generally when younger more around friends but I think as a man ages he settles down a becomes focused on his families needs if he is married or in a relationship
In the case of what I'm familiar with widow hood your putting the pieces back together its a lonely work you have to do people say you should find someone well you did that already and now your alone awaiting new discoveries I personally think its just a time we go through being alone for bit no more and no less
I think that depends on the people - - I think men are more "needy" in the physical department, and women are more "needy" in the financial department. Probably is why the world's oldest profession is the world's oldest profession . . . . and comes in various disguises. I think once a person learns to be alone (self acceptance)- - and is comfortable with themselves, the rest just falls into place, but there are some people that can't be alone - - they somehow need the affirmation of somebody else, or a constant diversion so they don't have to look inward. They come in both genders.
agree with onestep however , how sad that is to think that females are forced into a form or disquised form of prositiion in order to survive. I have lived alone for many years and have gone through all the self acceptance and even looking with in, however, I still would like to have a partner in my life and it has nothing to do with anything except having a conversation with oneself or seeing things and traveling alone is never better than sharing time with another person. It's human nature to want a partner in life. We were made male and female to be partners or mate etc. I think it is more abnormal or strange if you will to prefer to live alone.
Neither.... humans are not loners, if not a human mate we acquire animals - ie dogs and cats that fill in for the missing pieces of emotional love (or just to have something around them). I know men who have died within the first year they have widowed (this is very common) or they married within the first year. I learned in breavement counseling years ago that most women do not remarry after being married many years but the men do. But I dont believe anyone does it better, we survive and exist in this life.... we move forward....
I've heard that men tend to die earlier if not married. I've been alone (without permanent partner) for 17 of the last 20 years. Current age considered, I remain in decently good health. Once again, I seem to be bucking a trend. In this case thank God. Thinking of the single men I know, not one seems anxious to remarry. I have never asked why. Considering those friends; they are active, intelligent, have excellent self esteem and are in some measure financially secure. Perhaps they are what is considered loners too. Those I know who have become single, either by death or divorce who do remarry, remarry quickly. So there is a group of males who do not want to be alone.
On the other hand, single women whom I know that claim they wish to remain alone are very few. In fact, I can only think of just one. In my opinion, there are so many single women in the boomer age group because of the high divorce rate, a percentage of available men who wish to remain alone, plus the fact that males die off sooner than women. I have noticed too that women who make up their minds to mate again become highly competitive in attracting a man. One could say that in later years when it comes to landing a man, its survival of the fittest. :-) Just my take on the matter.
I wouldn't mind a relationship with a man, but I Do Not want to co-habitate! I'm quite content if it doesn't happen.
Houseman, you are so right! Use to go to my late S/O's VFW Post often, dancing every Friday and Sat. evening. There would be about 5-8 women to every man! Most people there were between 50-75 years old. Most,not all, but most women there were shamelessly persuing the men! Even flirted with men that came in with a partner! I was aproached several times over the years in the ladies room, and told by women"they were going to get my man". I would just tell them, cooly if they could "take" him, they could have him!
I think it all depends on the person. I am very independent, which most men want to change or they find me intimidating. I am an only child, so that may be part of it. If I find someone fine, if not fine. I love to travel and I do that with women friends. I love to read and books have always been my friends. I have a married woman friend, who years ago said to me, "Relationships with men come and go. Women friends are forever." That is so true.
I did an exercise years ago that made me prioritize my various positions in life - - it was life altering . . . I am first, and above all else, a human - then I become a female - then a wife (at the time) - then a mother, daughter, sister, friend, neighbor, co-worker, on down the line. . . . . After doing that, I never looked at genders quite the same way . . . . those predatory women are looking for others for their survival - maybe that's all they know - maybe that's all they are capable of - needing someone else to fulfill their needs (on any level) - - but I am blessed with a deeper sense of myself - - and my place in this world - - and I follow that calling. Being alone, is better than snatching up the next available . . . and I have friends - both male and female - - platonic - soulful relationships - although they are few in numbers, they surely make up for in quality.
