About 2 months ago, there was a conflict between my friends (who are my age), and my 18yo son. They came to my house to talk to him and the husband ended up shouting lies and trying to instigate a fight with him, and the wife ended up screaming in my son's face for 5 full minutes and saying foolish things based on illogical thinking.

Before they left, I let them (my friends) have it. I wouldn't normally do that, but I was having PMS (during which I have a hard time controlling my temper), I was upset at how immature they were both acting, I was upset at some of the things my son had said, and I was on the cusp of coming down with flu and my control was gone.

I lost it...I let 'em have...and it didn't make anything better. So I think I'll just go back to keeping my mouth shut unless I can productively steer the conversation to calmer ground and resolution.

I don't usually "lose it". It normally takes me a loooong time to get angry; but, once I do, I stay that way for a while. My husband says he can tell when I've had enough because my voice gets much lower & I speak slower & enunciate every word carefully. He also says I have a look that can chill you to the bone, my eyes narrow & my left eyebrow arches AND that I get a very "superior attitude". Works for me, I guess. I've never had anyone miss my drift.

I haven't lost it for awhile,,,unless you count the guy I gave the finger to in traffic the other day........or the tirade of ef words I said when my husband called me and when he was done talkin, he just hung up.....yep....that lit me up like a roman candle....dang.....that just peeves me....

When I sat down with my wife to have a discussion about cutting down on expenditures because of the very big losses that we had taken in the stock market and the generally bad financial outlook everywhere , she just started screaming that she wasn't going to cut down , literally screaming at me . I exploded and told her that since I couldn't talk with her like a rational adult and she seemed determined to behave like a moron that I would call a divorce lawyer and we would get divorced and split everything 50/50 . She could take her half and piss it away on stupidity and I would take my half and live frugally .