Question: What are your privacy settings on your profile? I'm interested to know how other people do theirs. I have mine set for only friends to see. I have my reasons for doing this, but recently got castigated in another group for having a "closed" profile. I'm really not trying to be anti-social! I just tend to be more private. I'm also not looking to date or anything like that. If I go to someone else's profile and theirs is set to private, I don't get offended. Do you?
Anyone can view my profile but all my pertinent information is not available. I no longer have my full name, address or anything on it. I had more than a few creeps wanting to visit me so now everything is gone that is important.
When I click on someone and it says you have to be friends to view profile, I've reached a point I don't care one way or the other. I am not shopping for male companionship, but I do want to meet other people. Why does everyone have to assume you are in search of a new "partner"?
I don't set mine to private 'cause anyone can find anyone and their business on the internet nowadays, no matter how your profile is set here or elsewhere. I just watch what details I do or do not put out there.
Mine is not private. But I put on only what I'm willing to disclose to the world at large. Being a private person, I understand someone's desire to keep their profile private. The difficulty comes, though, when I receive a 'fiends' invitation from someone I've never corresponded with, not even rad post or repiies from them, knowing nothing about them -- and they request to be 'friends.' Their profile is closed so I can find out zip about them, even. ??????????????
That's a 'decline' without giving it a second thought.
That's true, GG. That's the one thing that bothers me about keeping it private. I've just had people take exception to me for one reason or another, go peruse my profile, find something personal, and come back to me in a thread and use it in a nasty manner against me. Maybe I'll just cull my profile of anything I don't want out for the world at large.
Mine has always been open, I blab about pretty much everything in my life in my profile, my blog and in the groups, and have never had anyone use any of it in a nasty manner against me.
I don't get offended when faced by a closed profile, but think it is ridiculous. Why be on a social networking site and then have no available profile? I think if one has those kinds of privacy issues, do what Pam did --- take everything off of it that is really personal and that one doesn't want other people to know.
I dislike checking out a member to my groups to find I cannot view their Friends or the other groups they belong to, or read their About Me section. Those things tell you a lot about a person. In one of my controversial groups, I insisted on an open profile or the member could not remain in the group. I wanted to know who I was dealing with. The group has since become less volatile, so I have dropped that requirement.
Just like in Real Life. I don't really want much to do with people who are secretive and elusive. Gives me the skeevies. Same here. When I see a closed profile, I always ask myself what they are trying to hide. And it irritates me to have to invite someone to be my friend just to see their frigging profile. Maybe after seeing the profile I don't want to be friends. It's kind of a$$-backwards to my way of thinking.
JMNSHO. Naturally, everyone's mileage will vary on this topic.
Anyone can view my profile and I don't get offended if someone's profile is private. However, I usually don't ask them to be a friend because of what Marti said...once I've seen the profile, I may not want to be their friend. Oh, Well
Yes, this is a networking site-so, it does kind of make you wonder why a person would want their profile private--BUT when you have a bad experience--what do you do?--I am OK with the requested privacy --no one wants to be taunted or treated in an inappropriate manner because of their likes or dislikes--I never thought EONS was for us to lash out against people .REALLY MUCH TOO AWFUL that SueAnne55 had that bad experience. I have seen some posts where there was mention of dating sites--not recently--think it was back in the spring. I appreciate the screening that the Moderators do for their groups.
I just edited my profile so any information I don't want the world at large to see I took out, and deleted several pictures too. Although, my God, that takes a long time! Eons does not like deleting pictures! And made the profile more public. Thanks for everyone's opinion.
I want to add one more thing though. Please remove your complete name. That is very dangerous to have it where anyone can come to your house. I was naive when I started this and my info was on it. Wow, mistake. And while I don't care if someone wants to keep their profile secret, if it is a man, I am not going to be friends. I did that at the beginning and then saw their profile and all of their sites were hot and sexy, lust, etc. Just saying one has to be careful but on the other hand you can meet some really wonderful people on Eons (like everyone in this group I might add).
Mine is open but when I originally set it up I was very cagey and put nothing that would enable others to track me. I am sure I have blown that now as I have settled in and gotten more comfortable.
This is sexists but before I would ok a man I would definitely need to see his profile, but I don't know that I would mind if a woman's was private. I feel the same way about adding people to my group.
I really have not had any issue--not one--with eons' members. I have rejected a request or two, but I think they were bulk requests and my refusal wasn't even noticed. I only do that if it is obviously spam requests or if the guy is in a bunch of single/sex groups. I figure they are wanting more than I want to give. :)
I would not be offended by a private setting--all the ones are facebook are like that. It does make it hard to locate people--the right person--but it makes sense.
