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Denny, I think you have wonderful ideas. I think they will bring you much comfort and peace. I'll bet you will feel Suzy beam down upon you as she admires your Christmas spirit returning. I think we each create our own new traditions as we move along on our journey. As I have said many times before, the kids and I started a new tradition the year my husband died, we put his cowboy hat on top of the Christmas tree and somehow that seems to include him in our celebration.
I think the lighted tree next to her will be a sweet and tender memory of the many Christmases shared.
What love you share in your posts, how lucky Suzy was and how blessed you were and are, for the love never dies. May this Christmas be one of healing, one of once again enjoying the lights, the carols and the joy of the season. Know that you will be sharing it with your love.
Love Ya, Lyn

Denny, I think the idea of putting the lights around Suzy's potting shed is a wonderful one, and the time seems to be right as you are thinking about it. I'm sure she would love it. Go ahead and do it, it will give you comfort and you can then smile and remember the happy times.

Last Christmas, my 1st and only a few months on, I went to a garden centre with a friend and her children, got a little carried away with a wonderful animated, about 2 foot by 3 foot, Christmas moving train decoration thing - it had working signals, lights, and also played Christimas music, as well as 40 other popular tunes. I was so taken with it, they could not find their stock of it on the day. I could not get it out of my mind, I ordered one and went back the following week, drove all the way there (well it seemed a long way at the time), and it's stayed under the bed since the day I bought it. I did not have the heart to bring it out last year. I've been thinking about it this year, but I know the time is still not right, especially as I'm going to go away to my neice for Christmas to try to escape from my grief for a while, However, I am sure that the time will be right, possibly next Christmas and when I do get it out it is going to be very special and something between just Richard and me. I probably will keep it out for longer than Christmas as it plays non Christmas songs/music as well.

Denny, get out there and start putting the lights around yours and Suzy's potting shed - and then you can consider whether to put a lighted tree out, but possibly doing one thing this year, and the other next may help you onwards in this respect - best wishes Jeanette x

seems we have some things in common...this is my third Christmas too....our wedding anniversary was Feb 3, it STILL is! I'm doing a bit better about the holidays this year and am actually going to send out Christmas cards that I have made. So many have said that by year 5 the worst is over but that discourages me a bit because that means I have 3 years to go before my deep sadness eases and the dreams and anxious attacks go away.
I hope the things you plan to do will be healing and not harmful...sounds like a step forward.
Hang in there friend...
Blessings,
Lani

Denny, I think that is a wonderful idea. What a wonderful way to honor Suzy and to remember all the Christmas' you had together. Suzy will be so happy to see her garden decorated and that you are looking forward to Christmas again. I think it will bring you a lot of comfort and good memories. Hugs.....Sue

Denny, I think it is a wonderful idea that Suzy would love.

I have to give this some further thought. I can't afford to dig a hole I can't get out of.

Ann and I liked having Christmas lights on the house, not a lot of them, just enough to celebrate the season. I hadn't thought about what I would do this year, thanks for bringing it up, Denny.

Hang in there Denny. Last year no lights but some neighbors put a lighted angel in our yard. I now keep it in the living room. I have a 15 year old daughter so this year there shall be lights. The lights might bring tears but during the holidays what doesnt. I enjoy your posts and wish you the best
Michael

Denny, I agree that it sounds like a wonderful idea! I particularly like the idea of a lighted tree in her garden! What a lovely tribute to your love...
I did an indoor tree last year. I put it up just a day or two before Christmas and took it down a day or two after. I had always had a tree when I was alone before David, so I will probably continue to have a small one. But, Last year, Christmas sure wasn't the same. I found very little joy - until I searched my memories.

Marty, I guess searching our memories is what really keeps us going