Do You Ever Feel Your Heart is so
Broken you will never try love or trust love again? Have you ever put everything you had into a relationship and I am not talking about money but feelings, you let all your defenses down only to find out your s/o did not really love you at least the way you wanted them to? How did you handle it, are you back yet or are you still trying to trust again? Just chatting
Oh, I've been there so many times in my younger years. It hurt alot and
seemed like nothing would be right again. Then you find someone new
and it is alright for awhile and the same things happen again. They use
for whatever they want or need and then are gone. I look back now and wonder
what I ever saw in them in the 1st place and shiver. LOL It has also happened
with friends. I found out that 20 years ago when I quit drinking, the people I
thought were my friends, weren't. They never were in the 1st place is the way I see it.
I also am disappointed in people online and off that can't see when a true mistake was
really a mistake and can't accept a sincere apology. Sorry, got carried away. LOL
posted by Jody29
over 2 years ago
Ocean, of course its been broken a few times, but the heart does mend, its all the other things that go into a relationship that protects the heart. Like trusting etc. I guard my heart with a very thick armor now and very few ever have got to see the real me. I had one boyfriend tell me I needed to learn to live again, but why risk a broken heart, its easier to deal with the other stuff in a relationship. A broken heart at this age may not heal as fast as when I was younger. Im trying my best as my ex boyfriend said to learn to live again...(love again, enjoy life again, trust again) It will happen in time - and when the time is right... And how do I deal with it, one day at a time. Ocean, I know some women say they are happy being alone etc... Humans are not loners by nature. We need interaction of other humans. Maybe not 24/7 but we need to be loved and cared for etc. Every time I hear someone say I love being alone, I just wonder..... who are they kidding... JMO
yes.....I put everything into it....for 5 years.....he walked away. Yes it takes a while to get over that and move on...but I am.
My last relationship felt that way. I had invested about 5 years in it and we had wonderful times and wonderful plans for the future. But, then a bunch of unexpected things began to surface and all hill broke loose. It was devastating in part because at that time I was already in my late 50's. The end of that relationship completely knocked out my future - at least that's what it felt like at the time. I did rebound to a large extent but I know deep down inside I'll never really be the same. I have completely lost my ability to get excited about romantic relationships. I no longer trust them.
Ocean,
I know words are hollow without action , feelings emotional attachment, you pour your heart and soul into relationship maybe building a future so many walk away or pray with our hearts , the soul breaks because we wanted to believe it would last, i wish i could tell you it does but sometimes it does not , we grew up reading the dick and jane books in school believing in the dream , but we here in the fellowship of dating in reality must help understand the issues and hold on for better days ahead and listen to one another because some of may be alone right now needing the comfort of someone , yes I and we all have been their Ocean, I am better its a day by day journey no having that person with you the promises made the promises broken mis placed trust you feel crazy you cant think straight , if this eons room had a bar we would all be drunk , but its sobering experience , glad you wrote and shared this youre not alone here we learn to be better but what happened was because we were ourselves , nothing was wrong with us , some don't over analyze too much and over correct when your just fine God knows you were just fine from the beginning.. just be you
Yeah. I've been there and have been for quite a while. My heart is broken and I'm having trouble carrying on, but it is a one day at a time and trusting God, at least for me. There was something I am supposed to learn. Don't know that I've learned anything positive....at least not yet. I have learned not to trust what a man says or even his actions. I have learned to never, never give my heart to someone ever again. I've learned that I'm simply not good enough to expect someone to really love me for just me. It's simply not enough. But I also know that I don't wish to be alone for the rest of my life, so life is a puzzlement. I do like being alone. I do enjoy the opportunity and priviledge of raising my teenage daughter. But part of me continues to be sad and lonely. But, life goes on...one day at a time.
Wow,,,,what else can I say,,,,so I'll just say "ditto" of what everyone else has already said.
a marriage that failed largely due to my believing the words he said but his actions were opposite, followed by a nine year relationship that was more one sided than I ever knew until I had needs has left me with a desire to be in a relationship and fearful at the same time that I can not trust the people I chose.
Mtn, you deserved to be loved again, dont say your not deserving, maybe you need to put it this way he didnt deserve you, you gave 150% and got nothing in return. You need to learn your self worth before you can move forward. But im with you on the part of giving my heart, that wont happen again, not on the level it should be.
Each broken heart is a lesson to have been learned...it gives you insite into the next what to look for and what to run from. The signs are always there, we just dont know what to look for. Dont say you will never love again, because what is it that we all look for in life?...Love. We need it, we thrive on it. Just look at what happened, say I wont do that again and move on.
posted by kdfn
over 2 years ago
